Is my husband getting ready to cheat?

[Hopee25]

Title says it all really, I was just browsing on our computer and in our history i found these BBC articles my husband was reading about one by one? Then moving onto CASH iSA articles? I just can’t get it out of my head, why would these articles be interesting to him?

A little back story,

We have been together for 15 years, we are currently expecting our 2.child, I’m 7 months pregnant. My husband lost his job a couple of months ago. Then he lost his father. He is rather depressed about life overall. Still I can’t find a reason why these articles would be interesting to him? Please someone tell me am I overreacting?

I'll be kind but something has triggered his interest, hasn't it? Just keep an eye on things. There was a documentary on Netflix recently about the whole AM debacle and how the names and details of several million (and some famous) people were released via wikileaks I think it was, and there was a ransom issued to AM which they didn't pay, hence the release of the data. Hopefully, it's something to do with that and he had no idea this site was going until then. AM is also still an active site...

If somebody looked at my history of reading news articles with this sort of attitude, they'd probably conclude I was a fraud committing, world travelling mass murderer.

Oeople read news articles because they find them interesting, not because they want to reproduce whatever is written about in the article.

I have read all about Ashley madison ! I often go down rabbit holes 😂 I spent an entire evening after watching call the midwife researching breach births I have and never plan to be pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not on its own no - it could have easily been sparked by reading a newspaper article, a conversation with a friend, at a Lorraine Kelly segment on This Morning. I read a lot of Mumsnet and my search history is full of searches for £2000 dresses, how to get a divorce, and whether kids should be allowed at weddings.

Just to note, I’m not planning on any of these things.

There was a big data leak this week from one of the gay dating apps. Is there a chance he is already on an app and worried how secure his data is?

And the BBC news story about the leaks from 5 sites for various, er, special interests, dated 30 March (last Sunday), did specifically mention the Ashley Madison loss of customer data in 2015.
<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.bbc.com/news/articles/c05m5m5v327o" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/articles/c05m5m5v327o.amp

I wouldn't see this a sign of cheating, I will see something random and then read a whole heap of stuff about it for hour on end and then forget all about it.

@Stagshear he is big on privacy, always been. (Works for financial crime) just thought it was very odd, not sure if if I’d have clicked on it, maybe if the article was titled “are women really more unfaithful than men) . 🫣

You say he went onto look at ISAs - is it possible he's got money invested in Ashley Madison or similar and is worried about them losing money?

Also if I search something I often open differnet results in several tabs and quickly look though until I find the one I want - so my history would show I'd looked at 4 or 5 pages about the same thing but I'd only actually read 1

You only have to read one article, and then the algorithm sends more that are related.

I have read about Ashley Madison and have not even been on a dating site in years. I have no idea where I read it, as I would not have Googled it to start with.

I read articles about things if they are somehow linked to something else I was reading.
So with his history, I'd probably be reading a story in a tabloid about someone finding out about a cheat, then it mentions AM, then I look for other articles on that etc etc.
Or maybe a mate of his confided in him that they cheated?

It wouldn't mean I was planning on doing the thing in the article.
I regularly read about brutal murders and horrible situations by choice, I also read about celebrities. It doesn't make me a rapist/axe murderer or mean I'm stalking Sydney Sweeney...

Why not ask him ?

Nothing there to suggest he's going to cheat, imo.
My search history is shocking, but it's all mumsnet's fault. Some of these threads send me on a tangent.

If he works in financial crime, I'd think he's more interested in the data leak aspect.

Unless you suspect different, obvs you know him, we don't.

Could he be worried about his data on some dodgy website being leaked?

Stop being nosy OP. 😂

Watch his behaviour not stalk the news articles he reads.

The other day I found a screenshot on my phone, something relating to separation. I have no idea why I had taken it (5 years ago). If my husband found it I can imagine he wouldn’t be happy.

Point is, we all just read stuff while we’re browsing. I’ll read any old rubbish to put off doing jobs. Perhaps he was just trying to find a distraction from his his current problems. It doesn’t mean he’s unfaithful - that’s a massive leap on your part.

If it was actual dating sites or dating site reviews or photos of women I would worry, but these articles just seem like he’s gone down a rabbit hole, perhaps starting with views on men in marriage, then clicking on article after article. I think as stand alone news articles they aren’t hugely concerning.

But at the same time I would be on alert for a while for any changes in behaviour.

That alone wouldn’t make me suspicious. I watched a YouTube documentary on the AM hack about a week ago and my browser history is pretty similar to that, re the articles

I think if you're looking at his browsing history, you're already suspicious! I have never even thought about looking at what my DH looks at on the internet, it wouldn't even occur to me. I look at all sorts of weird and random shite - it doesn't mean anything!

ISA's - it's the end of the tax year tomorrow (you probably know) so if he's going to open a cash (or stocks & shares) ISA for this year, he will have been checking them all out in the last week or so. There are lots of offers now and he'd be comparing rates and other features of various accounts. My history is currently full of that.

Personally, I wouldn't use an ISA account to hide money or cheat though. Usually they are restricted access in return for better interest rates (apologies if I am explaining the obvious). And they'd still be part of your marital assets.

Online dating - as PPs say, we all go down rabbit holes and maybe that triggered his interest. I would read those, not because I'm planning to cheat but because it would be interesting. Who cheats and how and why. How the breaches happened and what the ramifications were/are.

If he works in FinCrime, he might be curious to see how the OLD breaches relate to his industry. I have a happily married friend who works in cyber crime and he'd be reading those articles with professional interest.

Depending how far back browsing history goes, you might see all kinds of things so probably don't worry about this.

@Endofyear i looked not his but ours we share a computer, I needed something specific that I was looking for but since forgotten (a google street address for rent) then I saw the articles. It wasn’t me so that’s how I discovered it.

I was just browsing on our computer and in our history i found these BBC articles my husband was reading about one by one?

Who just browses the internet history?

So what if she browsed the internet history?

OP, ask him about it.

If he was up to anything dodgy he would be deleting the history on a shared computer, not leaving breadcrumb pages for you to find!

All those articles are from 2012- 2015

So how did he arrive at them, they're not recent news.

Maybe he's doing research for work?

Given he’s tech savvy and into computing I’d be very worried about his job if he was trying to hide having an affair 😂