Is my husband getting ready to cheat?

[Hopee25]

Title says it all really, I was just browsing on our computer and in our history i found these BBC articles my husband was reading about one by one? Then moving onto CASH iSA articles? I just can’t get it out of my head, why would these articles be interesting to him?

A little back story,

We have been together for 15 years, we are currently expecting our 2.child, I’m 7 months pregnant. My husband lost his job a couple of months ago. Then he lost his father. He is rather depressed about life overall. Still I can’t find a reason why these articles would be interesting to him? Please someone tell me am I overreacting?

I read these articles, it's click bait, no intention or plans to act. Pure curiosity. Isa stuff, never bad to be informed about money.

Someone who, possibly correctly, suspects their spouse might be gearing up to cheat, if they haven’t already.

I’m totally lost as to why this means he’s getting ready to cheat. I look at all manner of random things. Surely we all do?

Just going to post the same!

Just looked at my own history. From that you'd definitely think I'm planning to buy a coffee machine, paint my front door and I'm into The Waltons in a big way. I'm not!

I would in all honesty assume these have been random clicks. Much like us on Mumsnet. I click and comment on some random stuff. Ask him about it

My search history is shocking, but it's all mumsnet's fault. Some of these threads send me on a tangent.

Same here!!

I don’t think his search history on its own points to cheating. Based on that, people might think I’m training to be a serial killer when I just like true crime podcasts and research the cases I hear about.

Are there any other concerning signs? E.g. suddenly very secretive and on his phone a lot / changed passcode / doesn’t leave it out of sight, started working out, dressing better, is more concerned about his appearance, snappy and short tempered or extremely affectionate towards you

Exactly this 🤣! He’s read the 1st article and ended up in a rabbit hole as the BBC presents you with previous articles. I’ve also read about Ashley Maddison and watched the documentary……..I am not planning on cheating, nor am I concerned about my profile being leaked!

If he works for financial crime I can see why he'd read these, I don't think this is at all any sign of potential cheating

If this is the only thing that’s making you suspicious, I wouldn’t think anymore of it. I read all sorts of crap online. Once you’ve looked at one thing, the algorithm will just keep throwing similar stuff at you.
Whatever made you look in the first place is what you should be paying attention to.

Those are old articles from 10-13 years ago. They wouldn’t have been suggested for him so he had to go looking for them. It’s a bit odd.

Start noticing if he is buying new clothes, working out more than usual. Takes his mobile with him and won't leave it just lying on the table when leaving the room.
Those are tells, rather than reading news articles.

This 100%. The stuff I look up, especially after joining Mumsnet, is enough to get me side eye from the worst of society.

It's of no importance.

To be fair, I think I've read all of those articles as they cascade on to each other at the bottom of the articles. I found them just an interesting read and have absolutely no intentions of cheating on my husband. I don't think he'd even think he would think I was if he saw those in my history.

I'm a proper rabbit hole reader. Yesterday I wound up reading all about Angellica Bell and Michael Underwood and somehow wound up reading their companies house data about their business interests.

I promise I have absolutely no interest in stalking Angellica Bell and Michael Underwood (did you know he's a teacher now? And I never knew she was married before him!)

I wouldn't necessarily assume anything OP, just that he was thinking about the Ashley Maddison stuff and read up a bit on it.

I Google quite literally anything that pops into my head. A train of random nonsense. I could have watched a show with an affair and then thought about that site and googled to have a reread of the scandal.

There's a show on Netflix. I actually did the exact same Google search after seeing it on Netflix - relatively recently. Could he just have been looking it up out of interest - after seeing it advertised on Netflix- or watching the show?

I watched a documentary about docking dogs ears and unscrupulous breeding today. My Google history is all about how to dock ears, how many litters I can breed without a license and what breed will make me the most money. I have never had a dog, have no intention of getting a dog, let alone starting a sideline in breeding them and I would rather chew off my own arm than cut off an innocent little puppy's ears! HTH

Well I clicked on this thread… doesn’t mean I’m planning to cheat either

Agree with previous posters - the stuff he's looked at has no meaning on his own. The key thing id take from this is that when you intrude on your partner in this way you end up feeling upset and confused.

Try and find a way to let it go and don't look again

I wouldn’t worry too much. I’ve been single for years and often click on random articles like these ones.

Why are you looking at his browsing history? If he works in financial crime and is big into privacy don't you think he'd make sure his browsing history wasn't saved if he was searching stuff he didn't want you to see. I'd be really cross if my DH went through my search history as I'm also a real rabbit hole searcher. It's a very strange conclusion for you to leap to. The cash ISA could be where he wants to put any redundancy payment and the Ashley Maddison stuff could be because he watched the documentary on Netflix. My search history is currently full of stuff about people on MAFS, Yotam Ottolengi recipes, tax efficient investment and true crime.

I am sure the Ashley madison breach appears in the website have i been.pwned

chuck his email in it and see

Is he a novelist (or aspiring novelist) doing research for his next opus? If not, he has cheating on his mind.