My DH had a gambling problem few years ago (£100k), we spoke about money yesterday and I suggested we sell our old house as we need the cash, he is adamant we don't cos of capital apprentice etc, so that's fine but whenever we talk about money he gets very defensive and started to scream at me, I screamed back, he brought up lots of things like how I made a neighbour a lasagne but don't feed him, my dad came over for his 60th birthday, how I didn't tidy up when we lived with his parents, how his job is stressful, we were pretty loud so neighbour called the police. I have 2 kids and a very busy job in finance so generally quite stressed as most people are. He has screamed at me before a few times, it got me thinking, once I was scared and hid in te bathroom with door locked. I dislike him as a person, the gambling and how it affected our lives is obvs a factor of my resentment, I do not want to stay with him but I have 2children. I know he is abusive verbally and has sworn at me, but I shout back too, over the 16 years it's happened like this prob 4 or 5 times. He has a problem with alcohol. I am not going to leave the house, it is mine too and I have 2 young children. Any thoughts and advice please.