Bumble matches I didn't swipe?

[Verytiredofwaiting]

Is anyone else getting matches on Bumble with people they didn't swipe right on? I've had 2 now I matched that I didn't remember swiping on but wasn't sure, now I've had one today I know 100% I would not have swiped right on. How is this happening?

I'm not having any luck on Bumble at all but am persevering because I don't want to use Hinge (everyone at work is on there) or Tinder (several relatives are on there). Is this a glitch or is Bumble trying to force matches because people are leaving it, or what?

As a man - No, not had this on Bumble. But at least you’re in a position they can’t contact you unless you start the ball rolling…. So for a woman it’s probably as safe a start point as any.
I left Hinge because I kept being catfished - Tinder I always thought was for hook ups not relationships
I think on all of them you can hide your details from your contacts?
Anyways don’t complain about getting too many matches!

Thanks for the reply, it's weird - I wouldn't complain about too many matches, if they were people I'd actually swiped! (people who I actually swiped on appear not to like me as I get hardly any and the ones I do instantly unmatch or ghost me after 2 days). The guy today has nothing written in his profile, I'd never swipe on someone who has nothing written, plus he's over 100 miles away which is way outside my search area. No way I swiped him.

I know you can allow Hinge access to your contacts so you don't match with them, but the people at work who use it are the service users not colleagues, so I don't have them in my contacts but definitely don't want them seeing my profile - imagine I work in the probation service or something similar (also the fact they're all using Hinge isn't a great advert for Hinge!).

In that case - yes, it’s weird and slightly disturbing . Maybe paying premium gives you more access???
And maybe I should re-try Hinge? If i’m up against your ‘clients’ I should stand a better chance?
Actually no - it would be worse if I got nowhere - it’s a bit like the ‘even Hitler found a girlfriend’ thing 😬😬

Lol I will assume your search criteria/ standards might be a bit different to the clients at work?!

I’m hoping I have little in common with your clients!
Actually on the ‘over 100 miles’ thing - if he was visiting your area he’d have seen your profile then. The travel mode thing I do find frustrating- any time I go away for a few days I seem to see loads of better options than I get at home.

See also the 'discover' section, where they show you profiles of people who are right up your street - except they're not, they're at the literal other end of the country

I wouldn't have swiped on someone with no words in his profile, I'm convinced I didn't swipe on this guy - unless he deleted all the writing in his profile and why would you do that?

Yup, ‘Discover’ is just as much Rowntrees Randoms as the rest.
And wouldn’t it be nice to have a filter so that anyone interested in roast dinners, intimacy without commitment, and neurodiversity (ie no imagination, just want a fuck, serious MH issues) is just hidden forever?

I'd be hiding 'not vanilla', 'viking' (wtf?) and 'van life' but YMMV.

You didn't just equate neurodiversity with serious mental health issues did you? 🤔

That’s actually interesting - just because I don’t see that sort of stuff. Maybe women don’t write it, or might be because I’m older…..
Probably my mileage is similar to yours, though I’d say that ‘viking’ actually means ‘I’m a bit of a tw*t’ and however vanilla or otherwise my tastes, I’d be put off by anyone posting that sort of shopping list on their profile. Doesn’t exactly shout ‘seeking meaningful relationship’? Or again, could just be that I’m an old git

I highly doubt women do describe themselves as vikings on their profiles, or put emojis of chains, write 'happiest when I've had a long session with a good sub' or use photos of themselves with their middle finger up. Men, however, do all this and more. I saw one today who actually put job : breast implant consultant and likes: large breasts/ breast implants. Good lord.

And still against this level of competition I struggle to find someone decent. I may just join a monastery

@Bittenonce But at least you’re in a position they can’t contact you unless you start the ball rolling

Didnt that change a while ago? I think anyone can start the messages now.

No, still needs the woman to start the ball rolling. Wishing I’d thought of your username! 9 months to go, still looking….

Yes it’s changed. Men can message first by paying a compliment or responding to a prompt.

It changed last year . I got quite a few opening messages from men,

Do men get an option to pay and match without the other party being involved? Tinder definitely used to allow messages to be sent without matching for premium users.

Of course the men paying either never bothered to fill in a profile or it was the biggest creeps and their perversions on full display.

Oh maybe that's what happened to me? Bumble don't seem to be advertising that but maybe. The man I was matched with wasn't creepy or anything , I just know l wouldn't have swiped on his profile.

I'm with you on men who don't write anything on their profile @Verytiredofwaiting. Perhaps they think their dashing good looks don't require them to be interesting in any other way 🤦🤣

It wouldn't surprise me. A few dating apps had premium features advertised on male profiles that I never saw. I assumed targeted marketing.

I questioned myself about a few who suddenly appeared as "matches", luckily I have male single friends to restore my sanity that I hadn't gone on a swipe binge in a fugue state!

Reduced bags of lettuce on a Saturday night have more personality than zero profile info men IME. Honestly looks more appealing than some of them too!

I've not been very active recently, but just had a look and majority of men don't write anything. And those that do go on about still having hair and their own teeth, I despair:)

Even worse are the ones who say ‘just ask’ like they’re so enigmatic with their blurred selfie in the public toilet we just have to know more

Haha. Truthfully, some of the men look ok with nice pics. But if they haven't written anything that puts me off. And anyone who sends me just a 'Hi' gets exactly the same in response. Funnily,.that doesn't start any interesting conversations, haha

Oh I always unmatched if I got ‘hi’ or even worse 👋

Don’t they realise that being low effort from start gives such a poor first impression?

Hi babe or Hi sexy for added bonus cringe.

On principle I swiped left on any bathroom pics. Gym mirror pics too.

Does it really take that much effort to Google chat up lines and at least try.