I’ve been in this relationship for around 7 years. I’ve just not felt comfortable having children and I’ve not been able to put my finger on why until lately. My partner is getting angry with me. He tells me he’s got us the house and we are comfortable so what is wrong with me, he’s done everything I’ve asked for and thrown all his money at me.
Ive realised that I just have this feeling constantly of not feeling safe. I’m not allowed to express feelings that upset him or blame him or criticise him. I can’t put my point forward on anything I don’t agree on. He gets very angry, will drag up arguments and things I’ve said from years and years ago. In an argument I am always wrong and I always back down because he kind of scares me. I absolutely hate conflict and I never resolve anything I want to because he is so defensive and I just want it to stop.
What am I to tell him?