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Original poster

My child’s dad slapped me tonight and kicked me.

57 replies

purpleblue2 · 27/02/2025 21:14

Just that really, he did this all while I had my 3 year old in my hand. He’s also hit the door and the door frame and then spat at ne twice aswell. She’s told me her daddy needs to go to jail cause he wasn’t very nice to mummy and told me not to cry although in that moment I wasn’t crying.

we already don’t live together and I don’t want to be with him but how do I stop this! How do I stop this from getting worse. As I got out he told me he was calling social services… to find out all about me. We’ve had them before. I don’t want them to take my baby

OP posts:
BansheeOfTheSouth · 27/02/2025 21:15

Phone the police

Springadorable · 27/02/2025 21:15

Your child is right. Call the police.

Gettoachiro · 27/02/2025 21:15

Ring the police. Never let him in your house again.

AnneLovesGilbert · 27/02/2025 21:15

She’s right and you need to call the police now if you haven’t.

NerrSnerr · 27/02/2025 21:17

You need to call the police. You need to do everything in your power to ensure your little girl isn't involved in this again and the best way to do that is to get it reported.

sanityisamyth · 27/02/2025 21:17

NerrSnerr · 27/02/2025 21:17

You need to call the police. You need to do everything in your power to ensure your little girl isn't involved in this again and the best way to do that is to get it reported.

This.

AllrightNowBaby · 27/02/2025 21:18

Don’t let this scumbag hurt you again and traumatise your daughter.
Ring the police now and tell them exactly what he has done to you.

Waterlilysunset · 27/02/2025 21:18

You don’t live together? That’s a great first step at protecting yourself. Shut the front door and never let him in again. Report him to the police

BreakfastClubBlues · 27/02/2025 21:18

The way you stop social services from removing your child from your care is by calling the police and cooperating with them.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you OP.

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/02/2025 21:18

Oh good god, this will only get worse. In a few years, if you don’t get away from him now, it will be your daughter too.

Are you able to leave the house? Do you have family/friends you can go to for the time being? When you get there, call the police.

Rfvvvv · 27/02/2025 21:18

Your poor poor child.
Cal the police for goodness sake.
Never allow him in the house again.
Call SS yourself.

LIZS · 27/02/2025 21:19

You need to act and report it before she tells someone at nursery. Your dd sounds very wise. Take photos of injuries and damage.

Hercisback1 · 27/02/2025 21:21

Police.

Would you want your daughter to think this is a normal relationship?

wandawaves · 27/02/2025 21:22

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ParrotParty · 27/02/2025 21:24

Social services won't blame you for his actions. They would only be concerned if it looked like you were trying to cover it up.
Report it, to the police and social services. Get ahead of it before it looks like you're trying to cover it up.

TheChosenTwo · 27/02/2025 21:24

Call the bloody police. I’m so sorry this has happened but you need to take drastic action and now. How on earth have you got to the point where your 3 year old daughter knows what to do but you don’t?
She deserves to not live a life like this and not grow up thinking this is normal.
Good luck, you know where to find us if you need further support but you need to call the police immediately.

Original poster
purpleblue2 · 27/02/2025 21:37

It’s not that I don’t know what to do I do know what to do. I am petrified and have had threats of acid etc. my poor baby is in her bed safe now and thankfully we was at his home not ours I don’t let him come into my home for the reason of safety and to ensure my child knows this is safe she knows this is normal and she knows this is how it should be she has never had anything like this happen in my home. I don’t let him near it if we ever came here to grab something I’d make him stay in the car etc.

i am supposed to be moving soon as in within weeks I’m planning on doing so and not telling anyone where I am as it’s temporary.

OP posts:
anothernameanotherplanet · 27/02/2025 21:40

Don’t be writing replies to us - get on the phone now.

Explain the situation.

Then onto social services first thing tomorrow.

Ask about internal locks, alarms etc.

Cattreesea · 27/02/2025 21:41

Call the police.

He hurt you and your child could also have been hurt. You need to report him.

HousedInMySoul · 27/02/2025 21:41

Yes, move away and don't tell anyone where you are, and hopefully you will never see him again 🙏

liveforsummer · 27/02/2025 21:42

I'm confused why you are clearly still spending time with someone you do not let in your home in order to keep it safe?!

4Clover4 · 27/02/2025 21:43

Are you in a relationship with him then? Either way you need to call the police

NerrSnerr · 27/02/2025 21:44

You need to call the police. If your daughter tells another adult what has happened and it hasn't been reported then social services will get involved and they will think that you haven't done everything in your power to keep her safe.

If he has threatened you with acid that also needs to be reported. All of it. These things cannot be dealt with alone and you need to get authorities involved.

Beastiesandthebeauty · 27/02/2025 21:44

Phone the police.

  1. You need to show your daughter it is wrong
  2. If you don't social services can get you for neglect.

Why on earth are you in his house.?

NerrSnerr · 27/02/2025 21:47

hollieguard.com

Also look at this link- it's the personal safety app developed by Holly Gazzard's dad (she was murdered by her ex).