What are my rights when husband keeps packing my stuff and taking keys off me?

[Gina8]

Married for 3 years. No kids.

The house we live in is bought by husband and he pays for the mortgage. The deeds are under his name only.

After arguments, sometimes he will pack my things and tell me to leave his house. Or demand I pack EVERYTHING and leave.

I’ll always agree to leaving straight away but I say it’s impossible for me to pack everything immediately but will remove everything within a week. He doesn’t accept it. He makes it difficult for me and then he will start packing my things for me. Basically throws all my stuff in bags. Sometimes he’ll throw my things out. He takes the house keys off me too.

I’ll usually go stay at my mums and then eventually (sometimes weeks after) he’ll beg and plead for me back. Even when I don’t agree, he’ll be persistent and overwhelms me that I cave in.

he usually kicks me out the house at midnight or later. He’s done this too many times now and I’m filing for divorce. I’ve gone NC.

I have no interest in claiming anything from him. And he can keep his house.

What I want to know does he have the right to expect to leave his house and take all of my belongings straight away whenever he demands. And does he have the right to take keys off me? Even though the house is his and he pays for the mortgage.

I am absolutely sick of women asking for advice on here and being attacked for staying with abusive men,

You clearly have absolutely no idea about how to support and lift up other women rather than trying to drag them down.

It's a shame because there's often really good advice on these threads but you have to wade through the victim blaming bullshit.

Just wanted to say well done for getting to the 'enough is enough' stage.

Welcome to your freedom, enjoy every moment x

Solicitor.
Next time, just disappear.
That's what I would do.
Don't go back, you have no children, be free, you don't need this idiot with issues in your (only) life.

knowing he has a precedent for doing this I would have a spare key somewhere. He can’t lock you out and I’d just go back in

I've done this. I've secretly had copies of our house keys cut and secreted them in the zip pockets of various handbags and I've put some in a sandwich bag and buried them in the front garden, so I can always get back in at some point, if the OH physically chucks me out. It can be done. (I know I need to LTB, I am in the process).

Is she allowed to break in when he’s not there to get her stuff? It’s her home and he’s locked her out of it?

Saw enough domestic violence to know that once is enough . Thanks for the education though. My life experience outweighs the literature

After a short marriage? I don’t think you can say this with any certainty!

hes being an arse, but often the advice on here to a woman is “pack his bags, throw him out, change the locks”, and that would certainly be advised if the woman owned the house and the marriage was short.

Surely we should be stressing the message that once is enough? Have seen many women giving endless chances to men. Has there ever been an instance where walking away first time was not the best option. Part of my ‘education’ was sitting at the hospital bed of of friend whose guy had taken a knife to her causing disfigurement and life long injuries. Of course this was not the first instance, but that’s what it took to split when he was imprisoned. No regrets for urging her to leave the first few times he hurt her. This was my education that you do not give an abuser a second go. My friend was thirty years ago and it makes me so sad that nothing has changed Hope op leaves her tormenter and gets help leading to a happier life.

She has left him and talks about it on a subsequent thread. This thread had no new posts on it since 25 February, until someone brought it up again this morning.