Play fighting with your spouse. Weird or no?

[Wonderwhyy]

DH and I both in our 30s with 2 children together 10 years so it's a mature relationship.
However we like to mess around with each other at times I'll maybe punch his arm in a jokey way and he'll punch mine back sometimes this can lead to a fake sparring match with a dead arm or dead leg.. all fun and games we both find it funny and it's just a goofy thing we do. Recently a friend of mine was by and she seen me punch his arm as a joke in the kitchen (he was in my way and I was basically saying move it) he punched mine back we laughed that was the end of it. After my husband left my friend said she couldn't believe it and after we talked about it and she understood it's all fun and games to us she was like I just find it weird as he's hitting you back. My sister has commented on it once as well at the start of our relationship more just like "what are you like"

I guess what I'm asking is, we're not the only ones are we? Are there others out there who do this?

I think it's bloody weird. Play fighting is something DH would occasionally do with the DC. It involves chucking them on the bed and a bit of tickling. No actual hitting. How is that not just actual fighting?

Very odd behaviour between adults. I wouldn't be ok with it at all.

I can't even imagine play fighting with my husband. Or just randomly punching him.

Punching someone because they are in your way in the kitchen.

Weird and not good. What do you tell your kids about physical violence? That it’s okay? That’s it’s okay for you to do it but not them?

Sorry not typical

Really weird. Go join a kickboxing club

Typical in our relationship op. Also in my marriage before, so maybe I'm the weird one! If you're both happy what's the issue?

I don't hit anyone. Certainly not the man I vowed to cherish.

I’m amazed by the other comments! I’ve been with DH for 11 years. We are always play fighting! We aren’t giving each other a dead leg 😆 but we will pretend to spar and shove each other with our hips.

My family are just used to it. My SIL has said a few times about us “always touching” or “flirting” when we do it. We are just making connections and enjoying each others company.

At the end of the day it works for your relationship and no one is getting actually hurt so just let it be.

An odd thing for adults to do…

Not weird! We do this, too!

Just to add- had a little laugh to myself as I often go “pow pow pow” as I’m punching him like we are in a comic 🫣

MN will tell you it's weird, and maybe even abusive. However in the real world, it's totally normal

I assume you’re not hitting each other hard so if it’s fine for you, it’s fine. I guess you might want to consider that this is the relationship behaviour you are modelling to your kids, which other people might find weird if they are inclined to emulate to it with future partners.

Haha, I do this do. Some times it's a "HI YA" karate chop lol. thanks for your comments I was starting to think we were bonkers. It's all fun and games..we're happy and make each other laugh often.

Couples play fighting" refers to , but it's crucial to respect boundaries and communicate clearly if things start to feel uncomfortable.

That's a quick Google btw. So no not weird. Dh and I have a 30 year old game of tag going on. He is currently "it"

If one of you feel uncomfortable that's very different but for me if I see this with a couple grinning at each other and clearly having fun. I would look on it as them being happy in each other's company

If you were late teens I’d say it’s not too strange but in your 30s etc yeah it’s weird.

Yeah no worries there we don't do it in front of our kids for this reason... Obviously don't want them going to nursey fighting other kids.

Those of us who are saying it is not normal are not 'MN'. We are in the real world.

Blimey, these comments 🤣 Same here OP. Me and DP are always play fighting. It makes us laugh - juvenile maybe but at least we don't have sticks up our arses 🤣🤣

Not weird in our house either, we sometimes fence with spoons and shout en guarde 😂

It's all just a bit of fun and boundaries are respected at all times.

I mean, if you both enjoy it, it's fine but, it would be tedious for anyone else around you to observe.

That sounds totally different to the OP to me. Hers involves actual hitting. Yours doesn't.

It's not weird if your having fun 😂 we wrestle, tickle and play fight.

Getting a good giggle from all the posts which are equating affectionate play fighting with physical violence 😂🙄😂

We do it occasionally. It’s funny and nobody gets hurt.

Dead leg or arm seems a bit extreme, we very occasionally do a teeny pinch thing or the lightest bottom tap on passing it’s not actually painful though.