Play fighting with your spouse. Weird or no?

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DH and I both in our 30s with 2 children together 10 years so it's a mature relationship.
However we like to mess around with each other at times I'll maybe punch his arm in a jokey way and he'll punch mine back sometimes this can lead to a fake sparring match with a dead arm or dead leg.. all fun and games we both find it funny and it's just a goofy thing we do. Recently a friend of mine was by and she seen me punch his arm as a joke in the kitchen (he was in my way and I was basically saying move it) he punched mine back we laughed that was the end of it. After my husband left my friend said she couldn't believe it and after we talked about it and she understood it's all fun and games to us she was like I just find it weird as he's hitting you back. My sister has commented on it once as well at the start of our relationship more just like "what are you like"

I guess what I'm asking is, we're not the only ones are we? Are there others out there who do this?

Some people are fine with it and some aren't. You are going to get an array of responses on here.
As long as you are both OK with it then that's what matters.
I quite like it. I had an ex who found it fun. However my husband does not like it so I don't do it any more.
Just as long as both partners are on the same page and someone isn't getting upset then it's fine!
Some people really don't like it and find it upsetting. That's also fine.
How a relationship is organised is down to the people in it,no one else. (Obviously serious harm is not included in that as its against the law)

Not weird at all.

Me and DP play fight all the time. We're both late-30s.

I have to say its tailed off in recent years as I've taken up boxing and MMA in a very serious way😂

But we play "line-backer" a lot which is me trying to touch the door post in our living room while DP blocks me, bats me away. Basically "gauntlet" from Gladiators with just us two and no soft surfaces 😅

We shout "Smack Down" in this context.

Can't beat a bit of Mums net to cheer up an other wise mundane day...

Firstly, who cares what random strangers online think. If you have fun doing it, and no-one is getting hurt then crack on.

I don't think its weird at all, I used to do it with my ex. admittedly it always always ended up with sex so there was a reason behind it but if it works for you then don't worry about it.

Weird to do it in front of other people. Your friend obviously felt uncomfortable. It all sounds a bit performative look at me I’m mad me etc.

Firstly, who cares what random strangers online think. If you have fun doing it, and no-one is getting hurt then crack on

This is a talk forum. For talking. If nobody asked anything or started any discussions it wouldn't work as a talk forum.

Why are you posting on a thread that specifically asks what random strangers online think then?

And why are you then giving your opinion?

Married 13 years, together 17

We do it, and sometimes the dog joins in too 😂

We’re in our late 50s and still do it…

Not sure we’d do it in front of other folk though- it’s our thing.

In our 50s here and still do it. Kids love it and pile on. I always come off worse as my dh can pick me up and the kids think this is hilarious. It always involves lots of laughing and cuddles. Love it.

I love this thread - giving me lots of laughs! I particularly like the use of a teatowel as a weapon and the sword fencing with spoons! I play fight with my grandchildren but the dogs hate us doing it - probably think we're having a proper punch-up!

Me and DH okay fight all the time!

My secret weapon is to flick his ear lobe or his forehead when he’s least expecting it, whereas he likes to pin me to the bed and see how long it takes me to get him off me……which I usually do by pinching him or digging my nails in to him 🤣

It’s all done in complete humour and and it really makes us laugh. We don’t do it in front of over people though as we know it’s silly, but we are a couple who like being silly with each other.

He loves to play fight with our children too and it usually turns into the four of us having a full on roll around the floor with my husband trying to trap the three of us whilst we try to escape his hold using any means necessary……including rapping his knuckles with the TV remote 🤣

It’s fun and innocent play fighting, and be it as a family group or just me and DH, it brings some light fun and laughter to our day ❤️

Definitely weird and very embarrassing for your friends to have to see. If you really must do stuff like that, don't do it in front of other people.

Sounds like you are still in love, keep it up! We don't and never have but it's not for us, it is for you.

No, ours involves stabbing each other 😂

We are 40 and 44. Love a little play fight. Usually more of a wrestle here though.

I can’t think of much I’d find weirder than play fighting as an adult but each to their own.