Play fighting with your spouse. Weird or no?

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DH and I both in our 30s with 2 children together 10 years so it's a mature relationship.
However we like to mess around with each other at times I'll maybe punch his arm in a jokey way and he'll punch mine back sometimes this can lead to a fake sparring match with a dead arm or dead leg.. all fun and games we both find it funny and it's just a goofy thing we do. Recently a friend of mine was by and she seen me punch his arm as a joke in the kitchen (he was in my way and I was basically saying move it) he punched mine back we laughed that was the end of it. After my husband left my friend said she couldn't believe it and after we talked about it and she understood it's all fun and games to us she was like I just find it weird as he's hitting you back. My sister has commented on it once as well at the start of our relationship more just like "what are you like"

I guess what I'm asking is, we're not the only ones are we? Are there others out there who do this?

We playfight but it doesn't involve hitting each other.. Just jokingly wrestling and tickling each other. I can't imagine hitting DP or them hitting me back.

Me and DP playfight. It's just fun.

Not weird. Me and my boyfriend do this too!

OP - we play fight and wrestle.
Get each other back when the other is least expecting. It's all fun and games
…and we are in our 40s.

Are people on MN so boring? We are middle aged and we still act juvenile with each other and yes play fighting sometimes too. You and your DH sound fun, OP. Who cares what others think.

Weird as fuck.

I’d be shocked to see that too. We wrestle with our kids but not each other.

I don’t like being touched at all unexpectedly and would absolutely hate this. Some people need way more personal space than others and that’s fine. It isn’t about being “fun”, it’s personal preference. Me and DH laugh a lot, we don’t need to punch each other to have fun.

I don't think this is weird, Dh and I play fight just for a giggle, we get in eachother's way and ask say do you want to square up 😂not in front of friends though! They would find it awkward and strange lol

I think all these play fighting relationships sound pretty healthy and fun. My partner and I used to bump into each other deliberately in the hallway and 'gut barge' like sumo wrestlers. It doesn't work so well now he has lost weight.

Me and Dh do this 🤣 especially the dead leg/arm

We pretend fight - as someone said up thread the pow pow fists and karate chops with the other rolling around as if they've been hit. But we don't actually make contact. Giving each other dead arms and legs sounds really ott. I suppose as long as you're both into it...

Aren’t “dead leg/arm”s painful?

I used to do this with my boyfriend when I was 16 and 17. Not sure why.
Would be weird with my current partner at my age. I don't want a dead arm even for fun 😆I would be really annoyed.
But if you both enjoy it and there is no harm done I don't see a major issue. People do much weirder things to each other, just watch a few channel 4 documentaries to see.

Funny this should come up, my instagram algorithm has targeted me for a course in play fighting in Manchester. I get the idea it’s like a sexual thing for couples.

I have no idea why it’s targeting me.

I personally wouldn’t be in to it as I’m not a naturally tactile person but if you're both on the same page and it’s all done in humour, and you say its not in front of the kids (thankfully) then it’s all good.

Couples who laugh together stay together.

Crikey. I wonder if it’s a bit like that weird thing where a bunch of strangers cuddle each other.(Not hug, but actually cuddle).

I'm 60 and love a play fight!

Not so keen on dead arms, but a wrestle on the floor or a piley on. Love it!

Love playing with young kids as well, rolling around the floor wrestling. I don't think it's weird if you like it or not. Everyone is so different.

I mean I'd rather chew my own arm off than sit and do crafting stuff. Or sit in front of the TV watching soaps. That's hell on Earth to me. But loads of people enjoy it.

Can't imagine having a boyfriend where we don't play fight.

Its fun to play fight if you both having fun no harm in it at all.

It might be normal for you and some of the other posters on this thread.

For me, and some other posters on the thread it's weird. It's violence dressed up as " playing".

Unless you have access to scientific research you cannot possibly say the " rest of the world" thinks it's normal.

Tbh you sound like someone desperately trying to normalise something which is definitely out of kilter with a loving and caring relationship.

My sister and her husband are like this, I'm not with mine but nothing wrong with it just different personalities!

Not weird. We do this occasionally I'll try take hubby down to the floor. Obvs not succeeding! He will floor me instead 🤣

Or he will literally get one finger and combat me with like pressure in armpits and I still loose (I'm tiny in comparison).

Sometimes the toddler joins in!

It's just being playful. And everyone's relationships are different- now my grandmother would have never ever done this with my grandfather.

Is it weird? No weirder than other stuff consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes and relationships.

However your friend has a point to point out that it's inappropriate and uncomfortable for others to witness.

For some reason, it made me think of Tackleberry from Police Academy.

What is boring about acting in a civilised, adult way?
Supposed adults behaving like immature, badly behaved children are extremely tedious and annoying.