The script and STDs

[TinyMouseTheatre]

Someone I know, and no, it's definitely not me, has a DH who has given her Chlamydia.

He's telling her he got it from a toilet seat and refusing to leave the family home and has cast himself as the injured party. I think that this is to make it easier to justify leaving her but on his terms.

How can I make her see that she's being fed the script and has anyone got any ideas in what the next part of the script will be please?

Can't a trusted source like a sexual health clinic or nhs website tell her how its transmitted?

Oh dear! That sounds awful for her, and she's lucky to have you as a friend to support her. Maybe approach it saying how worried you are for her and that it sounds like he's following the Script. Then send her the Script to let her see how that makes sense, and also encourage her to follow the Freedom program.
Make sure you stress how shameful her partner is behaving and that it is in no way her fault or a reflection of her.

So she’s asking him to leave if he’s refusing to leave?

Here the link to The Script: https://www.amazon.com/The-Script-Absolutely-Predictable-Things/dp/1401308422?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

And the Freedom program: https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

She was in the appointment when he was given the diagnosis and the GP said to her that you need to get tested, and you need to tell your GF to get tested too. He protested that he didn't have a GF and the GP just said, girlfriend, boyfriend, whoever it is that you're sleeping with.

I think she's been fed so many lies by him she can't see how bloody obvious sone of them are.

Exactly.

You need to talk to her about DARVO.

Deny
Attack
Reverse Victim and Offender

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

So op, that means she doesn’t accept the script doesn’t it?

There’s every chance he will say it must have been dormant the whole time or even push the blame onto her being the one to give it to him.

If people want to be blind to what’s obvious then I don’t know what you can suggest other than to leave her to make her own decisions.

How can I make her see that she's being fed the script

but she’s asking him to leave so I’m guessing she knows that

There’s every chance he will say it must have been dormant the whole time or even push the blame onto her being the one to give it to him

He actually put the blame on her at the appointment.

He went to the GP with symptoms for chlymedia and he brought his wife in? Not the sharpest tool in the box is he

So op, that means she doesn’t accept the script doesn’t it?

He's not going though and she's really doubting herself and still believes a lot of what he tells her.

He went to the GP with symptoms for chlymedia and he brought his wife in? Not the sharpest tool in the box is he

He really bloody isn't but that's a whole other story. I was surprised too, this is a whole new level of dumb even for him.

This is weird
She wants him to leave op
so sounds like she’s fully aware of “the script”

and I’m baffled he brought his wife into a GP appointment discussing his symptoms of chylemidia

And he had an appointment to give the diagnosis? Surely they do the test and then just ring to give wailer and prescribe antibiotics? They don’t waste an app to just tell the person

Does she have family? Is he the one paying for the house and bills etc or does she have her own financial independence?

If she doesn’t then she will be reluctant to make any moves and he may be holding that power over her.

So she’s no longer asking him to leave?

Just tell her to Google 'can you catch Chlamydia from a toilet seat' and shove the results in his face. There will be a bombardment of evidence to discredit his ridiculous shite.
What an utter cunt.

You’d think this would be the first thing she’d do

all very odd. Two people who don’t sound very bright.

Yes she's struggled to get a job which has affected her confidence and he's the one earning.

It could be different at a sexual health clinic. I assume you may get a text arranging you to go in for treatment.

My GP would text results and then have a telephone appointment to discuss.

That's what she says happened. Report me if you think I'm a troll

So he’s even more stupid if he took his wife along to an app at a sexual health clinic!

I don’t think you’re a troll

I suspect though she’s not being entirely straight with you

I don’t think you’re a troll

I suspect though she’s not being entirely straight with you

That could of course be entirely true. She's ND, has struggled with confidence since not being able to secure a job and at the moment I don't think she knows which way is up.