Can we have a happy VD thread?

[Littlebitpsycho]

We've got a Galentines thread which is awesome but can we also have one for those of us with decent men (if only to show that they are out there!)

I'll start:

I had flowers, chocolate, a card and a takeaway coffee handed over at work before 7am this morning (the coffee was particularly appreciated as it was bloody cold this morning - i work outdoors)

Anyone else?

I don’t think my comment was pissing on anything. But..

I am single, so clearly I have nothing better to do on VD than scroll Mumsnet. Clearly you’re bored of pruning your flowers and eating your chocs and reading the loving messages in your card and have went back to arguing with strangers online…over nothing.

I stand by what I said, posts boasting about what you were bought are cringe - whether that’s Valentines, or for Christmas, or for your birthday. And tells people nothing about your loving relationship

So what if it doesn't tell people anything about our relationships? The majority of threads on MN don't tell the full story.

God, why can't women let other women express their happiness? Why do some women only want the worst for others?

I got a lovely card, teddy bear and went out for lunch. I also got a gorgeous pressie off my little Valentine neighbour (23 months old) little boy.
I've got the table all set up for a steak dinner for this evening so a nice romantic evening in.

How is me saying bragging about - literally the most vacuous shit - wishing anyone unhappiness? By all means be happy in your relationship, I doubt that’s down to what you were bought today

I didn't get anything but I just wanted to say that all these stories are lovely. Don't let anyone say otherwise!

Because you've come on a thread about VD to piss all over it.

and again, the point of this thread is passing some people by
No one is trying to "tell anyone about their loving relationship"
Its a chat thread talking about what made you happy today, on Valentines day
No one is trying to say their relationship is better than anyone elses, or project a certain image to anyone else
No one is trying to prove a point
Its a thread, on a chat forum, for people to pop a little message because they are having a happy valentines day
There was literally no argument until people decided that a happy thread meant they had to jump on it and tell everyone who was enjoying the thread why they should, in fact, stop talking about being happy
I honestly dont understand why being unhappy is something to be shared and being happy is something disgusting and ridiculous but hey, there are always some people who want to make it really clear that being happy is NOT OK and we should keep any shred of happiness to ourselves and never once think of sharing it

Hey if teddys and cards and chocs and being bought stuff makes you happy then crack on. It’s weird to me to post about it to strangers

I think what @pikkumyy77 illustrates is yes most of people on this post are sharing happy times however we all have other shit going on ( I for one certainly do) so I think it’s ok to share some happiness when sometimes the world can be a dark and uncertain place. And equally I had really crap and horrible ones with my ex H.

I have a good relationship for the most part, its not perfect by any stretch
However little things like valentines day chocolates DO contribute to us both being happy in our relationship as little things like this do mean a lot to both of us, taking 5 mins to celebrate the day makes it feel special and happy that the person you love have taken a few mins to organise a token gift and write a card

I get up earlier than DH but he was proactive last night and laid out flowers, card and choccies for me to be welcomed with first thing this am :)

He has bought us a rack of ribs, coleslaw, corn on cob for dinner and a nice pudding. Bottle of Argentinian malbec.

I got him some local patisserie chocolates, a card and a coaster with the "let me tell you I love you, and I think about you all the time" song lyrics quoted on as it is meaningful to us.

Now hope the kids go down early!

Bore off haters.
I was surprised with a beautiful necklace this morning. He normally buys me flowers (we are mid house move so I told him not to bother) but I’ve had a bloody awful few months including a horrible health scare so he wanted to cheer me up 🥰 Fizz is on ice and he’s making my favourite dinner.
I was not quite so romantic, I got him a card and some shoes 🤣🤣 They are nice ones he wouldn’t buy himself though!

Fine, you think it's weird. I personally think it's weird to jump on a thread of women expressing something nice about relationships for once on MN with the sole purpose of tearing it down. But you do you, eh.

Isnt every thread on this board posting about stuff to strangers? Isnt that the whole point of an anonymous internet forum?
Its weird to me that its ok to post about the bad stuff thats going on in your life to strangers but not to share the good stuff as well

No, us in happy relationships aren't allowed to voice this because obv is all a performance / rubbing it in / sickening etc.... 🙄

I think she's just jelly.. ;)

DH bought me a big bouquet of beautiful hand-tied flowers from the local florist. I got him a cookbook he wanted, and made smoked salmon and scrambled eggs for his breakfast and am doing steak and potato dauphnoise for dinner. So I've made more effort than him this year, but given I have form for forgetting our anniversary and he never does, that's fine by me!

That sounds lovely :)

And your mind is so simple that you can't stay out of a space you a) don't like. And B) don't belong in.

Dear O dear. This is a concept my year 2/3 class are starting to master.

Did you manage to miss the first line of the post you’re replying to?

Did you happen to miss that it was posted after a poster put up a Galantines one cos they were having a hard time on this day? Who is more in need of support and comments?

To previous posters who called me jealous, or said I don’t belong on this thread, you just come across as mean and vacuous. And it’s why Mumsnet has the reputation it has.

I got grapes that looked a bit like hearts on my yoghurt
I also spent all my personal money on clothes and Botox but I really wanted some trainers so DH sent me money from his account
We don't do VD specifically but I've had a nice day

MN also has a reputation for posters ripping into other women, which is what you did when you came on here to tell us we shouldn't be sharing our happiness.

Clearly not mean enough if you're still here chatting absolute BS

Try harder ladies!

I said it was mean, I didn’t say I was bothered in the slightest.