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Neighbour keeps sending parcels to our address

113 replies

trumpetdown · 13/02/2025 00:24

They are annoying neighbours to say the least.. very subtle, but annoying.. how to stop Royal Mail delivering to us.. this happened before - they put our house number down on their packages until I contacted the company.. I don't wish to speak with them..

I could send back in post? Return to sender?

OP posts:
Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 13/02/2025 07:51

At the very least, stop taking them round.
Get a bin lock so the postie can't drop them in your bin.

You could putt a big note on your door saying you don't accept parcels for other people although if the cheeky buggers are actually putting your address that won't help so you'd be left with return to sender, not known at this address.

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 13/02/2025 07:56

trumpetdown · 13/02/2025 07:39

I think I can RTS by having Royal Mail collect from me at home so I don't need to trek around.

They did this before with Amazon and I called Amazon to put a stop to it.. now they doing it another way..

Weirdos!

So. ...the name on the package is Mrs Neighbour but the address is yours?

How odd these neighbours are!

I've just done a quick Google and it appears you are encouraged to ring the courier/RM and ask them to collect the parcel for redelivery

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 13/02/2025 07:57

Dawninglory · 13/02/2025 07:45

Open the parcels that should annoy them. Just to check they are not having illegal stuff delivered to your address.

Apparently, opening a parcel or letter which doesn't have your name on it, can be seen as theft

purplehue · 13/02/2025 07:59

I would keep the parcels indoors until they come to collect them. Never take them round. Or as others have said return to sender or leave out in the rain.

What does the law say about keeping them as they are sent to yours without your permission?

hopeishere · 13/02/2025 07:59

Are they out all day? Why are they doing this?

Stop bringing their parcels to them. Lock your parcel box.

pearbottomjeans · 13/02/2025 08:06

trumpetdown · 13/02/2025 00:27

There is proof when delivered.. by photo in our box outside so I could deny it.. it's a hassle as we constantly taking them round to drop off I leave outside.. they know exactly what they are doing..! No biggie I suppose but annoying..

Why the hell can’t they just do the same for their own front door? Is their house hard to find or something so they put yours down? Fucking annoying. I would definitely not be bringing the parcels inside at the very least. Leave them out there and let your neighbour come and get them and check they’re for them and then take them away and look like they’re stealing 😅

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 13/02/2025 08:08

Just refuse delivery when they come to the door, or say to your neighbours that they are using the wrong address and its becoming an inconvenience

HopingForTheBest25 · 13/02/2025 08:08

This is such an easy problem to fix. But you are going to have to take the bull by the horns and actually do something!
Why worry about annoying people who clearly give no shits about annoying you?

pearbottomjeans · 13/02/2025 08:09

FortuneFaded · 13/02/2025 03:12

It’s going to be tricky to avoid conflict compeltey if they are going to be arsey about you asserting yourselves.

Agree, neighbours are actually instigating conflict by putting the wrong address on their parcels.

TwentyKittens · 13/02/2025 08:12

I had this. It was mental. At one point I stopped a courier from leaving a parcel outside, he ended up phoning his boss who phoned the people....and they swore blind they lived at my house!!!

But the courier took the parcel away as it was obvious it was my house and I didn't even know these people.

It eventually stopped happening after a weightlifting set was delivered and I managed to manhandle it onto the pavement before they came to collect it.

I even had the woman come round to suggest I took their parcels round to them!!!! I told her a better idea was for her to have them delivered to her address in the first place.

Keroppi · 13/02/2025 08:13

So it's their name and your house number on the address? Weirdo behaviour
I'd either chuck them over into their garden willy nilly or bin some and definitely stop taking them over. Just shrug when they come and ask
If you could collar the delivery person and say that's not you on the parcel address that'd be better

Drcake · 13/02/2025 08:16

I do get that you don’t want conflict, but look at it from the other perspective…if you were sending all your parcels to your neighbour (without asking!), would you expect them to be happy about that? If the answer is no then it’s not your conflict, it’s theirs. I think sometimes cheeky bastards like this, work on the basis that you are a pleasant and polite person that won’t dare say anything. That’s how they get away with it!

Whyherewego · 13/02/2025 08:19

trumpetdown · 13/02/2025 07:39

I think I can RTS by having Royal Mail collect from me at home so I don't need to trek around.

They did this before with Amazon and I called Amazon to put a stop to it.. now they doing it another way..

Weirdos!

I wouldn't return to sender if you want to remain on vaguely decent terms.
Either don't accept the parcel when it's delivered "no that's not anyone who lives here" or keep the parcel but don't walk it round to them. Just leave it outside in the place it was delivered. Getting wet etc

Hamletscigar · 13/02/2025 08:23

Why on earth would you drop them around to them? Just keep the packages. Wait for them to come and get them. Never ever drop them around. Don’t tell them when you’re away. Don’t be available.

Whiteradiatorwithbellson · 13/02/2025 08:24

Gosh, just remove whatever box you have and leave the packages outside to get wet/nicked.

If the postman knocks, don't answer or say 'Steve lives at no.14' and close the door.

MumChp · 13/02/2025 08:28

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 13/02/2025 07:57

Apparently, opening a parcel or letter which doesn't have your name on it, can be seen as theft

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I wouldn't realise if my adress was on it. I would assume it was one of the grown up kids at university ordering stuff. I am allowed by them to open parcels or put them away. Most likely quite a few if the neighbour's would be treated like this.
I wouldn't feel very sorry if the neighbour was playing me by writing my address on parcels. I would be very sorry if I by mistake opened a parcel or later misplaced with me in an honest way with another address on.

Fairyflaps · 13/02/2025 08:30

This was happening to friends of mine - not parcels but letters from the bank. Their neighbours were making out that they couldn't change it with the bank and asking them to hold letters etc for them to collect once a week.
Even though they were returning to sender 'not known at this address', the letters kept coming. My friends ended up going to the sorting office who were very happy to manually sort all post to their address and only send things with their surname on it. That has resolved it for now.

frozendaisy · 13/02/2025 08:32

Are they drugs? Something else illegal?
So if intercepted it’s your address on the box?
That would be my thought.

I would put a note on door “Do not leave parcels for Mr&Mrs X at this address”

Odd if they know the postman he doesn’t deliver them to their address.

If it continues just leave them out in the rain.

Do not take them round.
Get a ring doorbell.

rainbowstardrops · 13/02/2025 08:35

Well firstly, there's no way on earth that I'd be taking any parcels round to them! If you do then you're enabling their weird behaviour.
Why are they doing it? Are they out all day and know you're in all day?

Original poster
trumpetdown · 13/02/2025 08:42

It's my bloody DH who insists dropping them at their door???

I've told him not to.. he sees it as getting rid of it..

I'll chat with him!!!

OP posts:
ooooohnoooooo · 13/02/2025 08:45

I'd open every single one. And when you 'realise ' it's not for you leave it outside and send them a text to pick it up.

They get a late, possibly soggy, opened parcel. Or it may just get stolen, Hey ho.

saveforthat · 13/02/2025 08:54

Be careful. I had this with new neighbours who moved in across the road. They had "accidentally" registered everything at my address. Don't worry, I said, I walk past with the dog everyday, I'll drop your post round. It was not long before debt collectors came knocking at my door.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 13/02/2025 08:55

OP, I think your address may become linked with fraud scams if you don’t put a stop to this. My sister had this with a neighbour who was committing fraud against various catalogue companies. The neighbour would look out for the postman and rush over to grab the parcel quickly. You do need to get it stopped.

BilboBlaggin · 13/02/2025 08:56

When you say 'box', do you have a parcel drop box outside your house? If they've got somewhere secure to have them delivered, and a lapdog who obediently takes them round to them, then no way are they going to stop.

I'd put a note on the box saying 'any parcels left that are not addressed to 'Trumpetdown' will be returned to sender.' Hopefully their postie friend will pass the message on. Then get postie to collect any that are being returned, thereby doubling his workload. He'll soon get fed up with it.

Seeline · 13/02/2025 08:59

Has your DH actually told the neighbours to stop doing this when he trots round with all their parcels?

If he hasn't said anything, the neighbours could legitimately assume that you don't have problem with the system.