Husband complaining about me losing job

[Horsewench]

I have a few health problems which means I have a lot of time off sick. This also means I lose jobs. All my husband does is complain that he can't pay all the bills as then he won't have enough for cigarettes and alcohol.

Dump him. You deserve better.

I think that's a bit harsh. It's fair enough that her husband is concerned about paying bills and paying for things he enjoys if he is working hard.
Also will the OP be better off is she dumps him and then has less income?

Agree with @InWalksBarberalla

Husband should not be cruel but if he didn't sign up to be the sole provider, his frustrations are understandable.

Does your DH work. He should be more sympathetic towards you, not your fault you have health problems

Do you qualify for pip? Can anything happen to change your health situation. Is there a type of job that would work better? Self employment for example.

What are your health problems? Some are covered under law that you can't be sacked without support first through reasonable adjustments

Well it is a bit shitty to work solely for bills and not have any money spare for fun/personal spending. Alcohol and cigarettes are not my 'fun' of choice but I can see if they were and I couldn't afford them, I'd be a bit miserable!

I think your husband is entitled to have a bit of a moan - you're in a hard position with health problems but so is he suddenly having to become the sole provider.

Are you claiming everything you're entitled to? Presumably if you're ill enough to lose multiple jobs over it, it's something pretty serious and you can look at longer term benefits if you're ultimately not going to be able to work.

What are the health problems? Why keep getting jobs and losing them...? Can you not help yourself in any way?

If you are unable to keep a job because of ill health, perhaps apply for PIP?

"In sickness and in health" ...

I’d be annoyed to if I was having to carry my partner and have no money left over for myself. I’d personally leave you!

Does he see you doing everything you can to contribute to the family and manage your health problems? I can see how it’s stressful for both of you.

I think I would be a bit miffed too to be honest. You do need to look at what you're entitled to if you are not working. Is your condition covered under PIP? For me a marriage is a partnership, its not having to support the other person all the time financially because they can't keep a job. It's your responsibility to make sure you are contributing also whether that be through part time work or PIP etc.

I think what the health conditions are is pretty relevant. And whether or not you're doing absolutely everything possible to be well?

According to your previous thread you’re the only one who pays for everything, he doesn’t contribute financially and you were looking at throwing him out as lease is in your name.

Goodness 😯

At least there's the 'booze and fags' consistency...

He is using you to fund his lifestyle, that's why he is so angry you are no longer working. Get rid of him

Make sure you claim everything you are entitled in term of benefits.

If you have a long term condition/disability, disclose that early to future employers and negotiate reasonable adjustments. Speak to your GP about any steps you could take to improve your health.

Though he made a vow ‘in sickness and in health’?

Yep - and that booze he spills on the carpet apparently

Did he? Is that a compulsory part of wedding vows? It's traditional where I live but not compulsory. We did our own vows.
Anyway I'm guessing he didn't vow not to complain about it.

A man should not complain about this.
It may mean that he is not able to provide for his family on his own. Or he is afraid of not being able to cope with his responsibilities

Are you posting from the year 1950?

No, I post messages from our time and follow my husband's example. He never complains. Even when I'm not working. He says it is his main duty to provide for the family.

So much of that going on on mn at the mo'.

It's almost like a portal has been opened to Stepford Wives....
'He actually asked me to contribute financially to a meal out..... I'm the lady!! Doesn't he know a good man pays for everything!!'
'He didn't bring me flowers and present when we met up!!'
'I want to go to Paris, and he hasn't taken the hint, from me eating a croissant EVERY day for breakfast!'