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Husband complaining about me losing job

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Horsewench · 11/02/2025 23:18

I have a few health problems which means I have a lot of time off sick. This also means I lose jobs. All my husband does is complain that he can't pay all the bills as then he won't have enough for cigarettes and alcohol.

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Original poster
Horsewench · 13/02/2025 00:13

If he was ill I would keep him. Can't help bad health. He complained about his first wife not doing anything for him when he was off sick for two years. I'm trying to find a more suitable job but I'm not qualified for anything. I only have 17 months to go before I retire

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Deadringer · 13/02/2025 00:22

He treated your dc so badly growing up that they don't visit, and you are still with him? You deserve each other.

Semiramide · 13/02/2025 00:53

I'm trying to find out what my options are with getting him out of house or me leaving

  • Wikivorce, Divorce for Dummies
  • gather all financial documentation (including pensions)
  • see an experienced family solicitor
Original poster
Horsewench · 13/02/2025 09:42

Evidently even if he isn't on the tenancy I can't just throw him out I need a court order

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DurinsBane · 15/02/2025 00:08

Horsewench · 12/02/2025 23:46

I can't get Pip or anything as not totally unable to work. My job involves standing for 6-8 hours a day. I only took it to stop him moaning. By the time I finish work I can't walk just sorting of shuffle. I'm waiting for op on my knees and having physio on my back. It's arthritis. I also have plantar fasiitis which has now caused other problems due to keeping going rather than resting. I've always paid the household bills just so I could keep a roof over my kids. He doesn't just have a can or two it's a couple of pints when he finishes work. 4 cans a night at home and now he's in half bottle of brandy per night. I was working 40 hours a week plus 2 hours commuting until last August. He does between 24-30 hours. Doesn't help around house at all. He's more concerned about neighbour who has been unwell this week. My kids won't visit because of the way he treated them growing up. He's cheated on me as well. I'm trying to find out what my options are with getting him out of house or me leaving

Pip is not means tested, or have anything to do with work. You could work 60 hour weeks and still be entitled to try and claim it

Original poster
Horsewench · 15/02/2025 00:23

Tried claiming it but don't have enough points

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DurinsBane · 17/02/2025 16:39

Horsewench · 15/02/2025 00:23

Tried claiming it but don't have enough points

Ah ok, I thought you meant you weren’t even entitled to claim, as because you mentioned it along with working

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