Husband complaining about me losing job

[Horsewench]

I have a few health problems which means I have a lot of time off sick. This also means I lose jobs. All my husband does is complain that he can't pay all the bills as then he won't have enough for cigarettes and alcohol.

What happens if he gets ill or disabled?

It’s one extreme of the other on here.

Either ‘the man I’ve dated has paid for all of our 400 dates and now has the cheek to ask me to pay for 2 Costa coffees. Should dump the cheapskate?’

Or ‘my DP moved in with me and the kids and refuses to pay towards the rent, bills, shopping, holidays etc. I’m absolutely skint now and he’s just bought a Ferrari and off to Dubai with the lads while I’m eating beans on toast. But he’s so sweet, kind, caring and the kids love him (when he’s not telling them to fuck off and robbing their pocket money). I don’t know what to do because I love his cock him soooooooooo much’

So you're saying a man shouldn't provide for his wife? Oh dear.

Easy words

And how will she support herself then?

Cigarettes and alcohol?

Unless you're married to Liam Gallagher LTB

According to her previous thread he doesn’t contribute anything financially and she pays for everything so she’s be better off

Plus he lost his driving licence through drink driving.

He's the only one working at the moment surely?

Both partners should provide equally for each other, that's what a partnership is. It may not be the same thing they're both contributing, but it should be equal.

We're not fainting on chaise longues in our drawing rooms any more Phyllis.

It’s not great for ether if u but it’s incredibly hard not to get resentful when you have to carry the entire financial burden of someone else

Wtf. Of course not. Are you from the 50s? Why would someone choose to 'provide' for another adult? Earn your own money. I'd never agree to a 'kept husband', so I don't see why would a man agree to a kept wife. Don't be a parasite, earn your own money, instead of sponging off your husband.

Both parents have a duty to provide for their kids. Each other? Definitely no.

My husband provides for me and our family. The money I work for, he tells me to keep. Sorry you don't like that!!

Agreed!

I’d never dream of financially carrying another adult who’s capable of work but refuses to. Supporting each other through an illness is one thing, but I could never sponge off someone else, or be sponged off.

Just kick him out of the house that's in your sole name? He's abusive and a lazy sod.
Can you try and see a counsellor, to help you work on becoming assertive enough so that you don't get taken advantage of anymore?
He won't change and he's just using you as a wallet on legs.

Ah I see your mistake. I’m an independent woman not an empty headed idiot. Dh and I both provide for our family. I’m sorry for you.

Lol. Don't feel sorry for me. I have a very good job but get to keep my money, unlike yourself. My husband is kind enough not to have me worry about those things! You should feel happy for me!

What’s his is mine and what’s mine’s my own…

If the shoe were on the other foot it’d no doubt be denounced as financial abuse.

You'd better tell my husband that. He doesn't actually want me to contribute even if I tried. Could be a pride thing, I don't know?

You get to keep your money? It’s kind that he lets you do that. It sounds like the worry maybe too much for you so I completely understand why he considers you less worthy to contribute.

My husband has no say over my money. It all goes in one big pot and it belongs to us! 😜

Sorry you're so bitter!

We have a 'pot that belong to us' too. Ridiculous.

I bring home a lot less than dh but it all goes where it should. Our family and home. If he said, don’t bother contributing, just keep your money for your little hobbies I’d have found that really offensive, whereas you see it as being looked after.

You need that ‘Queen’ feeling. Don’t be surprised there are more and more women now who are not content with being that.

I can't get Pip or anything as not totally unable to work. My job involves standing for 6-8 hours a day. I only took it to stop him moaning. By the time I finish work I can't walk just sorting of shuffle. I'm waiting for op on my knees and having physio on my back. It's arthritis. I also have plantar fasiitis which has now caused other problems due to keeping going rather than resting. I've always paid the household bills just so I could keep a roof over my kids. He doesn't just have a can or two it's a couple of pints when he finishes work. 4 cans a night at home and now he's in half bottle of brandy per night. I was working 40 hours a week plus 2 hours commuting until last August. He does between 24-30 hours. Doesn't help around house at all. He's more concerned about neighbour who has been unwell this week. My kids won't visit because of the way he treated them growing up. He's cheated on me as well. I'm trying to find out what my options are with getting him out of house or me leaving

These are his priorities in life. I believe it’s time for you to move on. They are definitely the most important things to him in this universe and if I was you I’d run as fast as I could away this river rat. Ugh

Though he made a vow ‘in sickness and in health’?

Which is a joke now with the amount of divorces happening.