BV help

[Finallyfound2025]

Im going out of my mind thinking there must be some help out there for this?
Iv been with my partner almost a year and in most of that time iv had BV and also UTIs, iv since found out the UTIs cause the BV, we have a very good sex life, pretty much daily and i know its definatly his cum that is the cause bcos when either him or I have been away/apart i have no issues.
Drs have given me long term antibiotics for UTI and apart from metro (currently taking 2nd course in 3 months) they are saying no long term help for the BV..i wouldnt need the long term antibiotics for the UTI if the BV would stay away though??
Iv tried every single over the counter pessary and gel, but i cant keep on like this forever.. all STI test etc are coming back clear.

My partner said he is willing to take the antibiotics if the drs prescribe them for him (he doesnt like taking any tablets at all) BUT drs etc wont treat men for BV

I do all the usual thinks of advice, shower/wash after, wee, no soaps ect im really just at the end of my teather and this week have felt so low and down to the point where i am actually thinking about ending the relationship so any advice would be amazing
Thank you

@Finallyfound2025 Afraid I have little or no practical advice beyond what you have already suggested, just wanted to say I could hear and feel your pain and upset in your post. Do hope someone here can help x

Make him wear a condom. Also, you need to look into increasing your good bacteria. When you take antibiotics they kill the bad bacteria but also kill the good bacteria. Start taking prebiotics and probiotics. It might take a while to build up good bacteria again, (which will keep the bad bacteria in check) but it’s well worth a try and will actually improve your overall health. Also, there’s evidence that inserting a tampon with natural yoghurt with probiotics can be used to encourage good bacteria growth.

@TipsyJoker Definitely have heard that natural yoghurt works well, both for symptoms and treatment.

I don't know anything about your relationship etc and sincere apologies if this is totally incorrect but I had this during a long term relationship with someone who was regularly unbeknownst to me unfaithful - not an issue ever again once relationship over.
For long term UTIs D-Mannose tablets taken regularly even when issue clears can be really helpful. Best of luck

Supplement B Manouse encourages good bacteria. Avoid him finishing inside you for a while too.

It's possible to be allergic to a partner's semen. Could this be the problem here?

I had a partner where I would have back to back BV. I had never had any problems before him and they all stopped when we broke up.

All STI tests were coming back clear but at one point my GP found thrush on swabs - I had no symptoms so she thought treating both would help and they did until I had sex again.

Advice I was given:
Wear condoms to see if it stops your symptoms Wee immediately after sex
Shower instead of baths
No tight fitting clothes or thongs

I looked for other women going through the same thing and many will say if you have constant BV then he is probably cheating.

Superdrug online doctor sells Bv treatment (antibiotics) which could be worth trying if doctors don’t prescribe him it.

I dont want to be one of those ppl that says he isnt cheating as we will never be 100% certain of that but i am pretty certain he isnt, iv been mostly single for 19yrs so thats not a hole i really want to be going down tbh but i can appreciate that it is also a cause.

I take pro/pre biotics also
The only thing i dont do in all the advice iv been given hear and read about is use condoms.

I genuinly do agree theres an allergy/his sperm just doesnt mix well with me.

@Finallyfound2025 Maybe try the yoghurt as you have sex with him? Might find it neutralises the effects of the sperm - an alternative lube?

Have the GPs given you boric acid yet?

Hi no they havent even suggested it..currently on metro and waiting for results of swabs from last weds!
Iv ordered boric myself and have had sex once since weds (saturday) and used boric sunday eve (trying hard to be on a ban while on the metro)

Usually would use balance active peseries but read the boric is better at killing but then read balance active (lactic acid) is kinder and more geared towards the PH

Have been looking for info if safe to use straight after sex but cant seem to find any info

Sorry if its TMI but i dont use lube as i dont need it, iv never struggled with dryness.

Do you mean yogurt on a tampon after sex and leave in over night?

Thing is he just wont take it without the drs say so.

Have you tried the oral probiotics? I find that they work if taken every day.

Also thank you everyone for been helpful and no snidy comments.
I was so scared to write that first post and i was actually crying as im so down about all this

Hiyes i started them a few months ago as i initially thought the UTIs were the main issue and they can also be helpful for that too. I cant remember what the name ia but there from holland and barrett and have the 3 ingredients in that ppl say to look for

I don’t think my ex was cheating at all either but I was at my wits end.
A nurse suggested to me it could be because of how wet everything was during sex and bacteria being pushed around.

When I scroll down the page there’s lots of similar threads being suggested. They may have found some other things helpful.

Not sure there is such a thing as TMI here! However I was suggesting both during, but if you are too wet then maybe straight after, and the tampon may or may not help. If you can lay there just with the yoghurt that may be best. Maybe place some tight knickers on to keep as much as possible inside you. Tampons can irritate so that's why yoghurt alone may be best. Probably only need it there for 30 mins or so then shower it out.

I've tried the Holland and Barrett ones. They work but only when I take them consistently. I think the coil is the problem for me. It's the mirena, bit the positives outweigh the negatives

Curious to know - why would your partner not take the meds without a doctor’s say-so? In view of the fact this relates to your shared life, I mean, and that will help you a lot if it works. And do you mean by this that he has already been to a sexual health clinic and a GP?

had this with certain partners, decided it was my body’s way of rejecting them! With other men, totally fine…

sorry no practical advice because I got rid of the men in question 😂

Thanks, iv read through the majority in the last couple of wks, most say the same thing x

Just use condoms for a while to establish if unprotected sex is causing this.

I suppose bcos there such strong antibiotics, he just doesnt take tablets at all to be honest.
And he had been to his GP, he said if his gp said yes it will work and help he would but his gp has told him they wont as it doesnt effect men, although we have both read it COULD, im sure you know what i mean by that x