Am I being love-bombed or is this normal? (Very early stages of dating)

[GotAGoodThing]

Matched with someone on the apps. He lives in Zone 2 of London; I live on the commuter line about an hour to Central London by train. We had a date on Friday half way between London and where I live. Was really nice, had a drink and a meal, I got train home after. No red flags during the date. Have agreed to meet again week after next (DCs are with their dad alternate weekends) in London, with me staying over. He has been texting me quite a bit. English not his first language but it is pretty good. Now he is suggesting meeting for coffee after work as well. I can't do this apart from Wednesdays when DC are with their dad. I have found being away from DC really hard so generally try to keep Wednesdays busy so am seeing a friend. But can do next Wednesday.

I guess I am just wondering how often do you meet people at the start when you're 'dating?'

Just a thought too op but the only thing more frustrating than waiting for sex, is bad sex. And commonly when the man doesn't give a shit about you (which, at 2 dates in, he doesn't, lets face it) the sex is shit too. We're talking every chance that he'll...arrive, and you won't...and he won't care.

The only hope is if he gets off on getting women off. And even then he may not be the sort who can take instruction.

I mean, it's always the chance you take anyway I suppose. But I wouldn't rush it solely for horniness sake.

Totally. I really regret reading it when I had just had a baby and was quite wobbly anyway. But once I started reading it I couldn't put it down. My ex was "Mr Drill Seargent" (or whatever it was) and it made so much sense of my past to me. But I didn't make the link that my then-husband was a "Mr Water Torturer" mixed in with a few other characters. I still don't know what possessed me to read it the first time round, as my ex wasn't being as horrible as he was towards the end of our marriage. Second time around reading it, after I'd split with my exH, I found it really helpful.

Yeah this is true; bad sex is horrible. I've just been without for so long now I am desperate to get laid!! I don't want to have a one-night stand / pull after a night out but also the men who are on the apps for "short term fun" or whatever the setting's called have all been really smutty and disrespectful. Like, I feel you in theory you should be able to have a FWB arrangement without it feeling sordid but all the matches I've had have been really creepy and weird so I don't want to sleep with them!

Ideally I would want to see someone the times the DC are with my ex, which would be 4 times a month (2 weekends and 2 weekdays in any given month) and then if it's going well, eventually introduce to DC after a minimum of 6 months. But agree that this might not be enough for some men. Especially those wanting to settle down sooner.

This sounds great!! Basically what I am looking for(ish).

I have met dads on the apps and have thought that it'd make sense to date another parent as they would 'get it' in regards to being time-short. But the ones I have exchanged messages with have all been really grumpy and defensive sending messages saying their kids come first and if I don't like that then tough. But in much blunter terms than that! So this has put me off as they come across as very aggressive in their messaging.

I think you need to find someone nearer to you. So you can get to know them before you are sleeping over. I wouldn't be staying at some fellas house, and to be honest I wouldn't be bringing them back to my children's home either until I had known them a good few months. It sounds tricky with this person. I think move on to someone more local where you can fave a lunchtime tryst and then leave. That's what I did with my current partner.

Yeh it makes me laugh when clueless guys and incels speak about how it's easy for women to get sex. Like, on what planet!?

Finding one you like, that likes you, vetting to find out that he isn't creepy or crazy or mean...that he wants what you want, that he cares about your desires... bloody nigh on impossible! Even harder to find one that suits for the long term.

'Oh you all want 10/10s'. Lol Like hon, I'd settle for a solid six that doesn't give off murderer vibes right now. I miss this mysterious 'sex' thing people keep talking about!

Yes yes to this. It's virtually impossible to find someone to sleep with. All the nice men I know are coupled up at this point (not saying I would want to sleep with all of them. But just the decent ones I know through work, acquaintances etc.)