Husbands Encrypted WhatsApp with Female Colleague

[Alby678]

Hi,

First time post as I don’t know if I’m losing my mind.

My husband is an Airline pilot who is was very popular with the ladies when he was younger. We have 3 adult children. Things are ok between us but he is a charmer. Sex is irregular between us but I suppose that’s the norm when you’re in your 50’s.

He has been travelling frequently with one particular glamorous cabin crew member who I have my suspicions about. She’s married to a nice handsome man who I’ve met and they have 3 children also.

My husband was having a shower this morning I got a chance to check his phone as something wasn’t sitting right with me. I searched her name on WhatsApp and the messages between them are encrypted?? Like what’s that about.

I’ve now checked whats involved in setting up encryption on WhatsApp and both parties have to set it up with one scanning a code on the others phone. Needless to say I’m seriously concerned now.

Has anyone encountered this before and how do you think I should handle this tricky situation?

Im thinking of contacting this woman’s husband but feel that might be a bit much at this point.

Thanks all.

I hate when an op makes a post and never comes back. Not because I'm treating this as a soap opera, but because so many posters swoop in with lovely, supportive advice and help and... crickets 🦗 hopefully op did look at the comments and got info she needed at least 🤞

OP probably realised she’s got the wrong end of the stick and there’s zero messages.

Ok, I’m back. Thanks for the responses all. Looks like I am paranoid.

Glad it was nothing op x

Your daughters name is on there, it's worth asking MN to delete.

Honestly I’d actually think about your behaviour here, you are clearly jealous of this woman and how she looks. And based on this, And even though she’s married, with kids, you were so jealous and insecure you breached your husbands privacy, searched his phone, and then when you saw no messages you actually created a new chat. Saw the encryption. Fell down a rabbit hole, got it wrong, and then came on here, to ask how to handle it.

you were even thinking of contacting her husband. It’s out of control.