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affair

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Angran1 · 15/01/2025 22:40

how do you get over affair

my world fell apart last week
found out partner has been havung am affair....

yes ive written on here before...

im devastated ,!!

we do want to work us out !!

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Channellingsophistication · 17/01/2025 07:04

This man is not your partner. I think you have been the other woman for 4 years. He must really be with the ex, sees the other ex but for 2 years of the 4 he was seeing you, he was seeing someone else! Of course he wants to work it out, but dont you feel like you are being kept on a string?

He will absolutely do this again. It is up to you whether you want to stay and see this happen or end it now and move forward without this dead weight of a man.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 17/01/2025 09:32

Angran1 · 16/01/2025 15:41

let me clear this up
..

both ex,s now know about me. this was one of the conditions i set if there was a chsmce of us moving past this.

he told them both.
this i know...fact.

this person he cheated on me with i have confronted on the phone in his presence.
yes it was 2 yrs.
more a meeting for coffee occssionally, but yes they slept togeher twice too....she lives herts we live kent amd i know when too due to things occuring raising my suspicions !!
ive invested a lot in this relationship

this person he cheated on me with i have confronted on the phone in his presence.

I bet that gave him the biggest hard-on, watching his bangmaid fight verbally for his worthless ass against another woman. What an ego boost for him!

This man is a negative value man. He takes value away from your life. You are constantly watching him, worried that he is cheating again, and hoping he will pick you. He is putting you at risk of STIs.

You aren't married to him and have no kids with him. DUMP HIM TODAY and get a dog or a cat for the affection you crave and a Hitachi Magic Wand for the best orgasms of your life.

He only wants to work it out because there are very few women out there who will put up with his behaviour and he knows that it will be hard to find a replacement Pickmeisha if you leave.

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Angran1 · 19/01/2025 22:59

Starlight1984 · 16/01/2025 16:19

Is this an affair with his ex who you've posted about multiple times before @Angran1 ?

no, this was an out of the blue random !

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2025willbemytime · 19/01/2025 23:02

Are you ok? Drunk?

Your posts aren't making a lot of sense.

You sound like you think you've won. You've not won when there is no prize.

BumpandBounce · 19/01/2025 23:09

Seriously OP, how low is your self-esteem that you’d fight to keep a man who treats you like this? Do you not think you’d could do better?

Yes, you’ve invested 4 years but better to walk away now than waste another 4 or longer! He will do this again.

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