Just had an argument ….

[Secondtimemum24]

Basically just had an argument with my boyfriend- I have 2 children one is 19 and had a boyfriend of 3 months met him 3 times….
me and my partner have a 10 month old.

we have an agreement that my daughter boyfriend doesn’t sleep over she sleeps at his when they spend the night together I haven’t another daughter who just said it’s weird him staying here so we all agreed he doesn’t.
we’ve met him 3 times seems nice enough / daughter (19) is a bit besotted but it’s her age lol.

shes just asked if she can Cook for them on the weekend here and then they’re going out my boyfriend just got funny and said why has he gotta come here why can’t she do that at his…. We have a front room/ dining room. So they’d be sat eating when we’re in the front room with the baby I guess….

I then said ok it might be awkward but let’s see he’s gonna be in our lives by the looks of it …. He then said he’s not gonna be in my baby’s life!! I explained if they stay together he will be because he will be around more and she’s her sister … he said no way he won’t be holding her etc …. I said you can’t say that it’s just life people come in and go and we’re grow relationships with them people / he said he will absolutely not have a relationship with my baby end of .. she can move out if she wants to be an adult and have a bf … am I being unreasonable that’s out of order no?

How long have your known your boyfriend? I’m a bit muddled about who’s who here.

Also, your boyfriend does not get to tell your daughter she has to move out.

Been with him 5 years … I have 2 older children and 1 baby with him x

Get the boyfriend gone. How about he moves out before he destroys the relationship with your elder daughter?

Your live in bf is getting awfully controlling here. He can't dictate to your children and tell them to move out.

Did you move into his place?

Get rid of your boyfriend OP, he sounds unhinged. Is he a cocklodger by any chance?

she can move out if she wants to be an adult and have a bf

What is he on about? She is an adult. She's being perfectly respectful, agreeing to your rule that her boyfriend doens't sleep over at your house, and asking if it's ok with you before inviting him over for food.

What a weird thing for your boyfriend to say.

It almost sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want your 19 year old daughter to have a boyfriend. Like he's jealous of your daughters boyfriend or something.

It's giving me creepy vibes tbh.

am i right.. YOUR BF is dictating what your DD's BF can and cannot do in her own home?

time for your BF to go I'm afraid!

Your boyfriend’s a prick and I don’t know how you’ve let it get this far. Is it your and your children’s house he moved into, or is it his?

Sounds like your partner is jealous of your daughter's boyfriend. He also sounds like a complete twat so I'd definitely make sure he doesn't ruin your relationship with your daughter.

well at this rate your bf is going to be seeing less of the baby than your daughters bf as if he can’t allow the families to blend this relationship will not last … nip it in the bud now… sit your bf down and say to him your daughter is doing nothing wrong by wanting to spend time with her bf… they r young!!
would he rather they walked the streets to be together or is he just selfish thinking they should spend all their time together at the bf’s family home… your bf is being totally unreasonable and if you allow him to think this is normal behaviour he will have won and your daughter will be gone

What a cunt. What's the plan if your daughter ends up marrying this guy then? Your shared children with this cunt your boyfriend must wear blindfolds and earmuffs every time he's around lest they be tarnished by the influence of gasp another male!

Just how small is your boyfriends cock anyway, that he's this insecure about the mere presence of another adult male in his home?

What's his concern about another man being around your child , as I assume he'll never be alone with the child (daughters boyfriend)

So he was around your children when he first met you, but your daughter's boyfriend isn't allowed to be around his child?

He sounds jealous of your daughter's boyfriend.
Red flags galore here OP

Who said it was weird for your daughters boyfriend to stay over? You say you don't have another daughter, so is that just an unfortunate typo?

If it is a typo, and your other daughter thought it weird that her siblings boyfriend stay over, didn't she also think it weird that your boyfriend stays over?

You seem to have one of two (if you have another daughter) people in your life attempting to control you, the daughter with the boyfriend, and the boyfriend.I

I'd take a couple of steps back and try to figure out if YOU think there are attempts to control you, specifically around your relationship with this daughter? And why that may be?

way to get your daughter to move out and never come back.
whilst your other daughter can feel perfectly valid about him sleeping over. Your only going to get to know this lad by him spending time with you as a family. i Feel for him (and your daughter), he’s not done anything wrong and none of you are making an effort to get to know him.

the others have it with your partner it’s his home, but he’s making your daughter feel awkward and shit. It’s her home too.

You have posted about him before. He’s a lazy prick. Leave him for the sake of all your children.

My very first thought

Your bf is a walking carnival of red flags.

At some point he's going to force you to choose. Choose wisely. Preferably now.

Personally I wouldn't want to be raising a girl with him - he's already trying to control your adult dd, imagine what he'll be like with your LO.

He sounds unhinged. What an odd thing to say. Why the hell should your daughter move out to spend time with her BF? It's absolutely bizarre.

How many more times are you going to post about this man?

He makes you miserable, treats you like shit, expects you to pay for everything and is now being a total cunt to your children too. Seriously, why on earth are you with him? This isn't a one-off. Everything he does is shitty, and you know it.

This is insane. Also that her boyfriend isn't allowed to stay, the only reason I'd say that was if they'd made noise and woken the baby.

I see it's your place.

Evict him. He's trying to control you and come between you and your older daughter. He's also creepy in regards to older daughter and BF.

Your boyfriends the problem OP.

Of course your daughter should be allowed her boyfriend round and cook for him etc.

Agree with others your boyfriend is the issue here.

Does he pay his way in the house and do his share of housework and baby care? I get vibes he may not