My mother not respecting my rules with my child

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My mum is the middle man (third person) between me & my co parent

Me and co parent don't have the best relationship hence why we need a third person.

So my mums job is to just reply to any messages my co parent sends her regarding our baby. That is it!

Today co parent was sending my mum paragraph after paragraph asking her to please "have a word with me" about unblocking him and being civil.

I've tried this numerous times it doesn't work. I'm over the relationship but co parent isn't. Co parent still "wants his family back" that is long gone for me.

Then after the paragraphs he asked my mum to send him a picture of the baby as she must of told him in a reply that she was babysitting out baby. She messaged me to tell me what he's been messaging her and I told her to stop engaging in conversation & do not send him a picture of the baby as today is not one of his days that he is having the baby. Tomorrow is his day.

Anyways when she dropped baby home she slipped up that she had sent a picture of the baby to him. I didn't say anything at the time but since she's left I'm really not happy about this. I told her not to and she said okay, she clearly have ignored me about my own child

I don't care if he is the baby's father, it isn't his day to communicate with my mum/me

We've been advised to not communicate on days that are not his days by police and womans aid. My mums knows all of this and isn't helping the situation

Am I being sensitive or is my mum wrong for this

Op, I have been in the situation of an abusive ex. Physically as well as mentally and verbally. I would never have asked my mum to be the middle man in a situation like this, I think it’s insanity.
My situation was different in that he wasn’t deemed to be safe around either of us and the judge issued a restraining order without me even applying.
But I still think it’s crazy to have your mum as a go between. You should be using the parent app. If you have documented evidence with the police over domestic abuse, then you should be able to get legal aid to establish a court order over parenting days. There is no need to have a middle man

Not kind to your Mother OP this isn’t “ a job “
to her
Move to a contact centre or someone less involved

You have the solution so why are you dithering about? Put an end to your mother being the middle man and make him use a contact centre. Problem over!

Right? After a frosty retort to me I posted a whole list of options... but OP just keeps hanging on this thread and still complaining about her mother rather than taking any proactive measures.

Have a bit of sympathy for a woman who has been in an abusive relationship and at least try to respond with a modicum of kindness
At least try to have a bit of sympathy for the OP's mother, who is being bombarded with messages from a narcissistic abuser. At least try to show her a modicum of thought and kindness, like other posters on the thread are managing to do.

DM is evidently not coping with this, whatever the rights and wrongs. Another arrangement is needed.

Lots of people here have suggested a co parenting app or contact centre. Will you pursue this?