His eldest is 15.
We've been together 3 years but don't live together as we wanted to take things slowly as his DS's found DP and his ex splitting up very difficult. Particularly the eldest. Hes is a quiet kid who is quite sensitive, he doesn't like change but he also thinks about things really deeply. He hates the thought of upsetting people.
DP met my DD about a year ago and he's spoken to his a few times about me meeting them. His youngest is laid back and said fine but his eldest hasn't even wanted to discuss it. DP make sure his time with me and his time with his DS's is kept separate (which I completely understand)
DP had a really good chat with him last week as it seems he's afraid of meeting me because if he doesn't like me then it will hurt and upset his dad as it would make things difficult for him so his solution that if he doesn't meet me he can't not like me but then he ls said he knows not meeting me makes his dad sad.
I just feel really sad. I wouldn't expect DP to insist his DS meets me
Has anyone been in this situation and it all worked out ok?