Would also find it weird?

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I have been with this guy for 10 months. He is American.

I started buying tools and learn DIY on youtube which I find very daunting.
He mentioned he is very good at it and had the best tools back in the US but didn’t bring then here.
I asked him if he could help me put a couple of pictures on a wall and teach me the basics.
He refused explaining that since the walls here are different from the US and the tools I have are different frim his, he doesn’t think he can do a good job and I better call a professional.

I don’t drive. He does.
I told him I wanted to go to Ikea and buy lots of things. I asked if I paid for us to hire a car and payed for petrol, would he be able to drive us there and back?
He said no because ‘people in the UK don’t drive properly’.
We are in London. How are all these people driving not driving properly?

I know his a perfectionist and I have a sense he doesn’t want to do something out of his comfort zone and fail. Once I wanted us both to cook a recipe I found. He was ok with it. We bought the ingredients. Once he realised I had never cooked that before he became grumpy because he had never cooked that before either. He only likes to cook for people the recipes he had perfected overvthe years.

I’m easy going. I’m thinking this is a incompatibility and can be quite draining long term.
Or am I overthinking?

Why are you so focused on the table? He didn't want it.

Do you want my table? No, yours is too short.

It seems he's been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder because he won't put up a photo and isn't interested in the table.

I muddled posts

No he hasn't. He's been queried regarding it because of the points outlined before which have nothing to do with ops more recent posts.

The table issue is a bit of a non issue.

You broke up, great!

And warned any single MNers about him too

The table issue is a non issue to show how he seems uncapable of a straight forward answer without ascertaining blaming to something outside of him.

‘do you want this table’? ‘no, thanks’

x

’do you want this table’? ‘no, thanks, it is too short, shorter than my kitchen table’

(when the size of the table would not matter a bit since it woyld not be used in the kitchen alongside the kitchen table and he was using a damn chair as a table anyway)

BTW
shorter should be lower
and BBQ indoors should be outdoors
I think I was tired when writing that clumsy post

Glad you're rid of him and here's to a happy 2025.

I agree with @Nexushub on dating in future - please don't be too dazzled by money and good job titles.

(Plus Professors in 2025 definitely aren't highly paid or smooth easygoing professional types, quite the opposite! Often good on X.com but very clunky IRL).

If someone is reasonably financially astute and you are too and you're not living in high CoL areas, you can do well together and have a great life.

How he is when he is with you is the main thing, if you're constantly having to analyse his behaviour or he makes you feel shit or doesn't add value that's reason enough to break things off.

Met plenty of guys online dating who had very odd social skills and were often very "difficult" and bullshitters, or intense and arrogant.

They could be ok/super nice/vulnerable in small ways.

but there clearly was a reason that women in their physical social circles weren't interested/hadn't commited to them.

They did ok initially online as they ticked certain boxes... professional job, tall, no children, ok looking, 30s age range, but after a while the flaws appeared!

Possibly ND? I agree with the pp who said this type of person often struggles socially to make connections, so they feel the urge for a partner to stabilise them and make them feel more mainstream....but there's very little consideration for the partners needs.

Ok as casual friends but no more. You don't want to be in LTRs with this type and have your life sucked out of you!

They are usually just plasterboard on a wooden frame.