Are all men like this?

[FauxChicken]

I’m not asking if it’s appropriate or not, just whether it’s common to the point of universal or close enough.

As an example, would you be able to be around your partner while topless/braless and just relax without him ogling or fondling you or otherwise pestering you?

Or do you have to either tell him not to do that, or stay covered?

I’m not sure I’d be comfortable lounging around topless, but I’m also sure that most men wouldn’t be pestering or fondling unless I explicitly asked them to.

No I wouldn’t be able to unless I wanted him to cop a feel,if I said, don’t bother,he would leave me alone.

Sitting on the sofa braless is totally different to sitting topless. I would expect to not be touched if I didn’t want to be, but I also don’t really think it’s all that appropriate to be sat on the sofa topless or naked in a shared space.

Ogling is different to touching though, you don’t get to dictate where someone looks. If you don’t want anyone looking at your naked breasts then put on a top.

Yes, I 100% could.

When we were younger it was not uncommon for us both to be almost naked especially during the summer. The flat was very hot even with the windows open.

I think you just get used to each other.

Mine would look, but if he wanted to touch he always asks.
I am usually only topless when dressing/undressing.

To constantly be pestered in your home so you can't relax is appalling. Touching someone sexually without their consent is assault. It's awful to be constantly objectified.

If he touches you in a sexual area (e.g. breasts) without consent (this counts even if you don't say 'no' but just don't say/give clear vibes of 'yes', but worse if you've made it clear to him you want him to stop) I'm afraid to say it's sexual assault. He's a total creep, tell him to leave you alone and break up with him. Really sorry he's doing this.

No, it's not normal, you aren't a piece of meat. It's one thing to maybe look at you and think you're attractive/tell you that you're attractive, completely other thing to be creepy about it. Really sorry this is happening.

Yes. Yes, many men don't do this. You should be able to wander around in your own home wearing whatever the fuck you want without being randomly grabbed by someone who hasn't bothered to check whether you're in the mood for that kind of thing or not.

Turning this the other way around I'd defo be ogling my dh if he had his balls out. I'd even ask if I could have a juggle.

I couldn’t relax topless. British houses are too cold for that. I think if I were to wander around with my baps out my DP would be more concerned than aroused.

I sometimes take my top off on the sofa if it’s just us at home, I’m struggling with peri and my breasts swell up uncomfortably so without tmi he will massage them for me to help. He will look and comment sometimes but not in an overly pesty way, I think he knows by now that it’s not attractive.

Why should I even bother to "understand men's minds"? If someone is a disrespectful rapey twat, the door is that way ➡️.

Braless? Well I never wear a bra at home, so yes. He rarely sees me topless , sometimes he looks/says something/comes over for a hug/"just a kiss" sometimes he doesn't.

Sometimes I squeeze his bum or rub his legs , cuddle him from behind , especially if he's just in his boxers.

We're quite touchy feely and neither has expressed a dislike or even pulled away (if we did we'd stop)so it's just how it works with us.

No idea if it's a man thing only, or even most men, but it's definitely a shitty partner thing if you expressed your displeasure.

Very much depends on the circumstances and the relationship that two people have.

using my ex as an example.

I would never grope or fondle her if she was topless in a public place. But I might comment how sexy she looked to make her feel good about herself.

if we were at home sat on the sofa and she was topless / naked or wearing lingerie then absolutely yes, as that was her way of saying ‘ I want you to fuck me on the sofa ‘ - and same applied the other way around if I was naked.

By braless I mean totally topless, sorry if that was unclear.

in what context? Sometimes i walk into the lounge topless and dance about it front of dh. I would expect him to react. Other times i might be topless while getting ready, in which case it would be obvious i wasnt parading about for his attention, and so he wouldnt react.

Well I wouldn’t be sitting watching Eastenders topless even in my own home but if I did decide to, I would expect to be left alone and not groped.

If I’m in the bath, if I’m getting changed.

I was not sure if I was being unreasonable to expect to be left alone when ‘the baps’ are out (that made me laugh thanks @VoltaireMittyDream ).

I read about a PP being able to lounge topless in bed without being pestered and it sounded so nice but I wondered if that was rare. I wondered if this was all or most men that would be the same.

Being pestered is not acceptable at all.

Is this a husband? Or partner? Or husband?

when else does he ignore the word no and with who else?

No - only a sex pest man-child would relentlessly grab and grope his partner in those circumstances.

Does your partner really ask everytime they’re about to touch you, in a LTR?

I would say if we’re sitting on the sofa together or passing each anywhere in the house, I would expect to be touched, and I’d find it weird if they pull away, no matter what I’m wearing. When sitting together I’d expect to sit close and their hands in places where they wouldn’t go in public - that doesn’t always mean sex will happen, it’s just basic intimacy.

If they asked my permission to touch my breasts when I’m near them, no matter what I’m wearing, I’d soon be done with them. Huge turn-off unless it’s a very new relationship and you don’t know each others’ preferences yet.

Obviously very different if said man isn’t someone I’m sleeping with 😆

I’m surprised by the amount of people that don’t want their partner to look at them or cuddle them. It’s just nice.