Anxious about 2nd date...

[livingthedream303]

Having had no luck on the dating apps for some time (why are so many men aged 40+ still not sure what they are looking for/only wanting non-monogamy/bitter etc?) I had a great date last weekend - we spent 7 hours drinking and chatting and we did have sex. I got home in the early hours of the morning.

We are going for our second date tomorrow, he has said that he may have to work on Saturday but has suggested going for drinks again. I am anxious at the moment for many reasons and so now I am anxious about this - I am not sure if this means he's not that into me? My last two boyfriends wanted to see me asap after the first date and took me to dinner on the second whereas this guy only wants to do drinks and will have to leave early because of work.

I think I am probably being unreasonable but I can't really tell...any words of advice???

Also something I find weird is that he's barely alluded to the sex? In the past men would have been sexting me after that or at least hinting at looking forward to the next time so that is another thing that makes me wonder if he's into me but maybe he's just different.

Perhaps he wants you to know that he is interested in getting to know you as a person and isn't just interested in you for sex?

After all, despite those past men's interest in you sexually, you are still on dating apps...

Don't overthink it and see it as a positive.

And of course I want to know what’s happened since ? All ok OP ?

@Louisa58we have been together for 6 months now!

Fabulous ! So pleased for you. ❤

@Louisa58thank you! It’s weird reading my post back and seeing the headspace I was in back then. My anxiety can still play up in a big way and we are taking things slowly but he has been consistent and reliable so I think I am finally relaxing into things. Dating/early stages of a relationship are hard as an anxious person! @Louisa58thank you! My anxiety can still play up in a big way and we are taking things slowly but he has been consistent and reliable so I think I am finally relaxing into things. Dating/early stages of a relationship are hard as an anxious person!

Not in my experience, plus, when I was single, I used to have sex as early as possible to rule out the sexually incompatible/dreadful before I wasted time on them.

I mean, I don’t disagree with you that it’s bizarre that the OP doesn’t know if someone likes her unless they sext (a sext would make me dump immediately), but I think that sex being something that women eventually ‘reward’ men with for playing nice with ‘relationship’ stuff went out with the dodo and the advent of reliable contraception.