Would you be annoyed if newish boyfriend lost your door key?

[Dovey22]

Boyfriend of 6 months, I’ve started leaving him my key to let himself in if he arrives a bit before I finish work or leaves after me. Today he was meeting me at a hospital appointment and I said to bring the key. After appointment he realises he can’t find the key, looked everywhere, said he maybe left it in the door (!) or it’s fallen out. I was already stressed today due to the hospital appointment, luckily it was all ok but I was definitely pissed off about the key and how it seemed pretty careless. It also triggered me because my ex husband was the biggest man child who needed reminded to lock doors/take key/turn off oven etc etc
anyway he felt I shouldn’t be annoyed as he didn’t mean to lose it, I couldn’t help that I was. Was I wrong to feel pissed off?

…it was in his pocket the whole time

As someone in their 40s, I think you should have asked yourself whether you can trust your boyfriend with your only key. Six months isn’t a long time to know each other and I have friends who are engaged who don’t have keys to each other’s house so everyone has a different level of personal comfort really. No internet stranger can make that determination for you. If he is generally reliable and responsible and this is a one off, I would not be too alarmed by it but would just monitor the situation. We are all human and can make a mistake - I have myself forgotten my key at home and had to retrieve a spare occasionally but I didn’t lose it or leave it somewhere where anyone else could access it to compromise the security of my home.

I’d be fuming that he’s not seeming overly bothered about the stress he gave you.

Also, he went back to your place and then realised he had the key all along? I’d be questioning if he’d left the place unsecured and was basically saying “oh silly me, it was in my pocket” as that sound better than “oh yeah, I left your house totally unsecured by leaving the key in the door/the door open”

Annoying

This. I suspect he left it in the door and didn't want to own up.

No, I wouldn't care. I lost Dp's parking badge. He just shrugged it off, quite a few uptight people on this thread.

I would be more upset at his reaction that him losing the key.

I’m maybe reading too much into it, but it kind of feels like he’s testing you to see your reaction. I’d get rid and change your locks

If you're not at that stage yet then you shouldn't be giving him a key at all. He could easily go and get another one cut in that time and then you've got a man you don't know all that well with a key to your house, and you don't even know he's got it.

Well there’s a difference between giving him his own key and leaving a key for him to come into my house. I trust him and am not worried about him cutting my key to sneak into my house. Plus I have a ring doorbell

I'd be deeply unimpressed by anyone aged over about 15 not being able to hold on to a key. It's pretty, well, key to being a grown up. Up to you, but I would get rid if it were me.

I'd be more annoyed he hasn't the ability to look for something properly in a small place