Hello,
Little back ground my partner is a dad of 3 (from other mothers) soon to be 4, who suffers from DID (split personality disorder) and I am 38 weeks pregnant with his child and I have both ADHD and Autism.
Tuesday morning me and my partner had an argument resulting in him calling the police because I was refusing to leave the property. My partner pushed me onto the sofa and the grab my collar on my jumper to try and lift me up to leave the property, as he's done this I have lashed out and put my feet on his chest to push him off and as i've done that he grabbed my neck, resulting in a bruise on my neck. my partner had grabbed me before by my wrist and ankle (on two separate occasions) again because I was refusing to leave the property. After he had grabbed me I got up and left the property, as I was leaving my partner shouted out the front door saying that nobody liked my and that I should go kill myself (I know that this is his DID and anger speaking.) His ex sister in law and two other neighbours are in the street while this happen. we will call his ex sister in law "SIL" for short, she also lives in the same street as us. SIL stopped, heard and witnessed him shouting at me so me and her went for a walk together. I had told her what had happened and that police were on their way and everything. while we were on our walk the police arrived and spoke to my partner and he had just told them that we had an argument blah blah blah, me and SIL had made our way back to our street and as I come to my partners flat the two officers are walking out. I didn't want to make a statement nor tell the police what had happened but SIL turned round and told them. I then proceeded to tell the officers that I didn't want to make a statement but they put me in the back of the van anyway to ask me further questions. my partner was then arrested around 11AM on tuesday. Long story short now, I fought my hardest to get my partner released without charges, bail conditions or a DVPO put in place, and on thursday this was granted, the case is closed and there are no orders put in place to stop me and my partner seeing eachother. we later sound out after speaking that SIL was messaging our neighbours to lie and put a statement in against my partner and how he acts around the kids. (we have evidence of this) he is an amazing father, but we believe that SIL is doing this because my partners brother had full custody of their children. We knew social services were going to be involved anyway but today (the friday) social services contacted me and we have an appointment on monday about everything, they have advised I don't see my partner till after this appointment, but I had told them this wouldn't happen so close to my due date, they didn't mention anything about his other children so we thought that was going to be that and we would find out what was happening at my appointment. My partner has his other kids every friday to sunday so his youngest child was dropped off to him today after school, and within 10 minutes his mother was walking back through the door saying my partner couldn't have his son this weekend because social services had rung her and told her this, she had told them she has no concerns with her son staying in his care but they made it clear he still wasn't allowed his children this weekend. i've never been involved with social services before and I really don't know what's happening, how do we go about this? how to we get social services to believe that he is the amazing father he is? i just feel so left in the dark and confused I just really don't know what is happening.