My partner and I live together with my 9 year old daughter (whose father is not on the scene) . He has a boys who do not live with us .
He works long hours and we often miss family time or date nights because of this .
He will , if we argue go out with the “boys” often all night .
BUT this situation is different . No argument , his friend has a bday at a night club and he wants to attend (I have no childcare and am reliant on mum to do this) the following weekend he has a work Xmas do.
His response when I make a comment on this was that it wasn’t his fault I had a child with a man who doesn’t “stand up” and that I was being controlling for saying two weeks in a row is a bit much given we had to cancel date night the previous week due to work.
he also said he didn’t do a Benidorm holiday with the lads because I objected (which I didn’t ) he often goes out for a quick pint and meanwhile I feel like I’m running a hotel at times .
I love this man but this is causing tension , his boys stay with mum and are old and bough to be left alone , am I wrong here ? He says other women and men wouldn’t have an issue with this ?
A few weeks back was the first time he baby sat as I had spent the day looking after his boy and my child and the week before cooking for his family (all ten of them )
with thanks