Are there are any very short women in happy relationships with short men?

[Whitsta90]

A very popular topic posted many times on this site, but I was wondering if there are any below average height women who are in happy relationships with men who are also below average, or maybe just about average height. I [M, single-approaching mid 30s, single and at the point where I'd like to settle down with someone],I have noticed quite a strong point made in these kind of threads both here and elsewhere, that aside from the obvious general consensus that women are more attracted to taller men, that usually the women who are most biased where this is concerned are much smaller height women.

My main reason for asking is that I am a slighter build and shorter height man-just 5'7'', so I guess I can be classed as quite short, not super short but well outside the famous 6'' height range preference-Who does have quite a thing for very height small women, however quick disclaimer, I am perfectly open to dating women of all height ranges and build and have been attracted to a very wide variety of women[tall/short/curvy/chubby/skinny]. I tend to be most attracted to faces more than body where the physical side of things is concerned, and then its all about personality which I'm finding makes a huge difference now I've reached the age I have. However I have very often been attracted to smaller than average women, so it would be nice to hear if there are any women of this description that are married/in relationships with guys of my stature, mainly because I so often typically see it written how women like this are more often than not, less attracted to guys of my physical description -[Not sure if I mentioned it but I'm slim build as well unfortunately, so another disadvantage😂]-Would be nice to hear if a few real life instances exist, just to give a little ray of hope that regardless of who I do manage to hopefully attract, I might have a least a bit of a chance with smaller women as well😂

Just thinking about me and my friends - we all have partners who are same height or taller than us, but these men are not necessarily tall!

So OP, if you apply that principle then any woman of 5’7” or below could be interested in you, so that must be 95% of women!

DH is 5ft 6 I'm 5ft 1.
We have been married for over 45 years.

My Great grandparents - mom's parents parents - were 5 ft 3 (him) and 4 ft 11 (her.) Married at 20-21 and stayed married til their deaths aged 80 and 81. (A few months apart.)

Grandparents - 5 ft 5 him and 5 ft 4 her... Married in the 1930s, married 63 years, til his death (hers a year later.)

Grandad's sister 4 ft 10, and her husband 5 ft 2 ... Married in the 1940s, stayed wed for 30 years til he died in the 1970s. She never remarried, and died in the 1990s in her 70s.

One of my cousins is 5 ft 1 and her husband is 5 ft 4, and they've been married 40 years. All 5 children of theirs - 4 boys and 1 girl are all 5 ft 2 to 5 ft 5, and 3 of them are married to people an inch or two shorter. All successful marriages so far - 10-15 years.

So yes, 2 shorter people can - and do last.

I think the alleged pre occupation with height is mainly due to on line dating, where you have to specify height preferences. This is a rather artificial situation because if you meet someone in real life, you might decide that an inch or so is no big deal, whereas a specific cut off point on line can eliminate literally thousands of men

DH and I have a 6 inch height difference. Me 5 ft 4, him 5 ft 10. I didn't seek out someone 6 inches taller though, and wouldn't have cared if he had been my height.

Yes I agree

I know plenty of couples where the woman is taller! I don't think your height is an issue

I'm 5'3 and DH is 5'7. As long as he taller than me then height is the bottom of my priorities when it comes to attraction!

I am just under 5'7 and my husband is a fraction shorter than me. If I wear heels I am taller than him. Don't even think about it, we are very happy.

I know a couple married for 20 years.
Him about 5ft 3 and she's just under 5ft.

I’m 5’7 but i never thinjing height is a problem at all. My husband is a bit taller than me but if u wear a bit high heels i’m gonna be taller than him.

I’m attracted to clever man. Clever man in here doesn’t need to be like oxford graduate, but man who possessed many knowledge, who likes to read and responsible. I rather with short man but clever rather than 6’ but stupid. Stupid man its such a turn off.

I'm 5'2", my DH is 6'2".
I wasn't attracted to his height, I was attracted to his genuinely lovely smile, his humility, his thoughtfulness and how exciting it was getting to know him.
BTW I don't know why you consider 5 ft 7 to be short.
Walk tall and with confidence and be aware that most women are looking for a man who has humour, doesn't think the world of himself, who is kind at heart, observant and thoughtful, and shows a genuine interest in getting to know them.
After years of marriage the only thing my husband's height has been good for is being able to reach items off the grocery shelf and change the batteries in the smoke detectors.

My dh is 5'7 and I'm 5'6. Height has never been an issue.

I live in a pretty short part of the country so I know loads of couples where the male partners are 5'5 to 5'8 range and the female partners are just under 5' to 5'4 or so. I'm literally the tallest woman in my family on both sides.

It's pretty slim pickings around here if you're holding out for a 6 footer.

I’d say that most of my girlfriends are on the short side - 5’4 ish. So at 5’7, you’re going to be taller than the average woman so it really shouldn’t be an issue.

My husband’s shorter than all our male friends and he’d love to be taller, but he’s 5’9 and a smidge taller than me (if I’m not in heels), so it’s not an issue.

😁😁 Can relate!

Thanks for all the reassuring comments so far, I will say one thing however, it seems to have become a thing nowadays that anything under about 5 foot 9 or 10 is thought of as very short, it perplexes me to be honest, especially as 5'7'' is apparently very close to the average global height for a male

Not quite what you asked but ...my mum is 5 ft 7 my dad is 5 '5 and she's been obsessed with him for 44 years 😅

5'7'' is still a full 7 inches taller than a woman of 5 foot, a noticeable difference, enough that I can quite easily be looking down on a woman of this height [probably come to around chin level to me] and yet i've seen examples of women of this height still dismissing my height as too short, whether its an exaggerated online thing or its different in real life i don't know but I really can't seem to fathom it...

My mum is 5 foot 1 and my dad is around 5 foot 6 [so i was never going to be tall], long divorced, however they did meet in the early 1980s, meaning it might have been different then as I don't think the height thing was quite as much of a thing then as it is now, but i could be wrong

The love of my life was not a tall man. I think of him every day. He was my soul mate, that connection was like living in a different dimension. He was utterly perfect for me.

It was complicated and we couldn't be together for the long term. It's been YEARS. But he changed me. He was poetry. I long for him and would move heaven & earth to be with him again.

He was probably 5'6. I'm 5'2. Dunno his actual height, we never talked about it.

So yeah. Focus on that connection. Be wonderful, be relaxed, be fun, be great company, own it but don't mention it unless they do, if they do, little irreverent joke and move on. Be comfortable being the amazing human you are. No woman gives a shiny shit about height if you have other great qualities and if they do judge, it's not meant to be.

My aunt is about 4, 11 and her husband was about 5,1. They were together for 40 years.

You're wrong, women have always liked tall men.

I know this is the opposite of what you asked but my husband is 5ft 5 and I'm 6ft1, been married 28 years now, people who won't go out with someone because they are short and shallow and missing out, we have been together since I was 19.

I think outwith of online dating profiles, in real life, people aren't as fussed about height as its made out.

Lots of taller women will want tall men of course. Because its not just that they want someone a little taller, it's also possibly about hiw they feel next to him - that they want to feel more feminine beside him.

I'm short. I'd date 5ft4 and up.

With one stipulation - no small hands. I recently found out that I don't like small hands on men. Odd ick to have but, there we go. It is what it is.
Of course small men may be more likely to have small hands tbf.

I know what you mean. I'm 4ft 10. DH is about 5ft 9 and it works well.

BIL is 6 ft 3 plus and so uncomfortable to keep looking up.