Prudish or cringe?

[whattododoido]

I’ve had 5 dates with guy, he’s 51. The dates have been one a week, and not much communication inbetween. As in no phone calls, texts are a bit dry. I feel it’s me asking the questions etc. he has older children and other commitments so it’s hard to make time to see each other. But I feel he’s happy with once a week anyway.
our date this week, he cooked dinner at his house. We had a little kiss, nothing more. The next night he told me he fell asleep easily and he had a little help in doing so. He mentioned he pleasured himself because of our kiss. He’s always seemed a real gentleman and it took me by surprise.
how would you feel if this was said to you? I’m not a prude but I’m new to the dating game,
I don’t want flings I’m looking for a real connection.

Ewwww.
I love sex but that would put me right off.

It'd be a massive turn off for me

I mean if you've had five dates l think you know if you feel there's a connection from your side. It doesn't sound like there is.

It's a little off if he's sent that out of the blue. Has he complimented you?

I wouldn’t bother seeing him again. Doesn’t sound like there’s any spark or sexual chemistry making that comment very odd and creepy
Sounds like a weirdo.

pretty sure you can do better

That would put me off.

He has complimented. But he’s a well spoken, good job, gent.. or so he comes across. I don’t feel much of a connection, how can we only seeing each other once a week and not having much communication inbetween, only vague texts. It seemed a bit immature to me and didn’t know how to respond to it. When I did mention it. He said that we aren’t compatible because he was flirting. I didn’t feel it was flirting. Just going straight into saying that. He admitted he actually did it.

Flirting doesn’t mean what he thinks it means. Eww.

@WarmFrogPond thanks. I didn’t think that was flirting either. It just seemed odd! And creepy.

What??

Highly inappropriate.
It’s not you, it’s him.

Why??

The doing or the telling???

Cringe and block.

What have I misunderstood here??

🤮

Yuk!

Yuck. That's not flirting imho. It's more like he's fifteen than fifty-one.

He said that we aren’t compatible because he was flirting

Flirting? Really?

It seems you are not compatible. His idea of flirting is, um...ewww!

Post title is 'prudish or cringe'. I think cringe, and also block because of the cringe (telling OP he'd slept well after he'd wanked off after a snog, with no other intimacy between them).

Yes. I mean, if you were flirting with someone you’d been on five dates with, would you message him to say you’d masturbated yourself to sleep thinking of him?

Nah.

He ain't no gentleman.

Yuck. The fact he thought it was ok totally you this is a massive red flag. Run for the hills.

@WarmFrogPond definitely not. He also suggested I do the same with a wink emoji to help myself sleep.

Argh, it gets worse.

@whattododoido In answer to your basic reality check question, you are not being prudish and yes it is cringe, creepy and gross.