DD told me is controlling and manipulative

[Treesfallingallaround]

It’s over isn’t it?

short story; DD (15) just heard an exchange between me and DP (not her dad) and the second he left the car she said ‘mum, he is so controlling and manipulative’ and went on to give me many examples she has seen and heard of this and how much she dislikes DP because of the way he treats me.

like I say, it’s over isn’t it??!

*sorry for the typo in the title

Sadly she does

Smart girl to see the behaviour you think is normal.

So have you a plan OP.

Yes, it's over. Or should be for the sake of your daughter

How long have you been together, who owns the house you live in, hopefully it is easy to get him out.

Poor girl, having to be the adult in this situation.
Do her a favour and start taking care of yourself better, so she doesn't have to.

I’m main earner, but we share a car (his car) and I need a car, and he is on the tenancy but it was my house.

Been together 3 years lived together about 1 year

Nope just needed to say it out loud (kinda) all of my family think he is amazing

I'm not bashing you over the past, but please change the future

No other children she is my only he has a DD he see’s EOW

If you're the main earner that makes it easier as you're not dependent on him financially. Does he contribute towards food and bills. Hope it's quite straight forward to remove him from the tenancy.

All over? Well, either DD is right, in which case you bet it is and the sooner you go the better: Or she's deluded. If you thought the latter, you would be putting her straight rather than posting here?
Sounds like a wake up call from the person who's most important to you, who you are most important to, who seems to have clearer emotional vision than you.

Well not ALL of your family - the most important person thinks he is the opposite. Good on you for paying attention and time to make some plans.

They don’t live with him day in day out. They don’t see the behaviour your DD sees.

What did he say to make her say that????

It’s complicated but basically my DD had a medical appointment, he suddenly needed to go and see his parents (for zero reason). Que emotional black mail, sighing, tutting about how my daughter had taken away time from him seeing his family, but in a massively more passive, agitating way

She was 1000% right then, he’s a complete wrong un. She is not over reacting at all what a bizarre manipulative man. Run don’t walk.

You have raised her well, I hope if she’s ever in that situation she can tell him to fuck off quicker.