2nd Baby will Social Services be involved?

[Rillee]

Hi, I’m not pregnant yet but I would like another baby. Social services was involved with my 1st as I was in an abusive relationship we broke up, he moved out and the case was closed. This was 3 years ago, he is a completely different person now and has grown up massively and we get along very well as friends and he is an amazing dad. We both don’t have partners at the moment and have discussed having another baby together and co parenting. If I were to do this would social services be involved again , even if he no longer lives with me?

Yes, I would think and hope social services would be involved.

As to your former partner going from being abusive to completely changing, I don’t believe this is possible.. I dont think people fundamentally change. They just change their behaviour to appear a different way. It’s all part of the manipulation of abuse isnt it?

Even if he has changed, is your self-esteem really so low that you want a relationship with someone who abused you?