Ex drama im happily married

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20 years ago met older guy , he was rich , and couldnt control himself , girls , parties etc . When i met him i didnt know he was already in a serious relationship already . We broke up but he kind of dumped me i think .

it was very roller coaster highs and lows , and he broke my heart .it was deep and i thought he was the one

it took a lot to sort myself out i was a mess after that . In good place now great job kids and amazing husband

15 years after it ended i called him - mainly for closure and to tell him how much it had hurt me and how unnecessary it had been

He told me that he fucked up and now all he wants is me , he loved me and missed me and his life is empty and im the only one he wants

he wants me to leave my husband he wants to marry me , i have three children and my husband is incredible

this guy was my first love . In the last 15 years i never did forget him and im slowly trying to sort out my feelings

my husband knows about the history and knows we have been in touch again

am i right to think this is just a connection i need to disconnect ?!

He's just a headfuck. Run away! But also you need to reflect on what made you contact him again

What the fuck is wrong with you to contact him after all this time? You’re going to ruin your marriage

What the hell? Your husband doesn’t deserve you, he deserves someone loyal and kind.

You contacted him for closure after 15 years WTAF why do that?
He's fucking with your head he probably couldn't give two shits and is trying to see what new things you have learnt over that last 15 years.

Fuck sake

It's a sign. Destiny calls

He's a player who currently doesn't have any one to play with.
You're not the one, you'll break your husband, and ruin your children's lives.
Stop it now.

Yes kids

You've been a bit silly OP, there was no need to contact him. I can't imagine why you thought it was a good idea.
Anyway, too late to worry about that now but just block him and forget he exists

You're in love with a fantasy. What might have been with this man.

Have you actually seen what he looks like now?

Why be so horribly cruel to your husband?

Are you prone to episodes of self sabotage? Way to hand grenade your life. Your poor husband

This post is absolutely fucking bonkers

So you slept walked through 15 years of your life.

What the actual fuck are you doing OP?

Seriously, your dh needs to leave you and take the children with him.

It's not ex drama by the way it's your drama.

You contacted him after 15 years because despite being treated like shit by him, you couldn't move on a decade and a half later?

And he chucks sweet words your way and now what? Are you considering leaving to be with him? Or seeing him secretly?

You chose the drama. You dialed it and asked for it.

Why on earth would you do that?

Happily married people don't do this.

Why the hell did you contact him after 15 yrs ? I feel sorry for your husband... He broke your heart and you were lucky enough to find a nice husband and then you go and contact that other man who treated you terribly. Honestly what is wrong with you ?

Wow!
erm…I thought you wanted closure…doesn’t sound like it to me…

Indeed. If my husband pined after and contacted an ex his bags would be packed do fast he'd think the Flash had fucking done it.

It's just so massively disrespectful. And hurtful. How can you get past realising you were only ever the backup?

He’s an old man by now, it and he won’t be what you remember and you’ll mess up your husband and kids’ happy lives by screwing around, you’ve just got a bit bored and been fishing and this one has bitten because he’s now semi elderly and running out of options so fancies a last hoorah now it’s fallen on his lap. Avoid!!

You do realise you unnecessary called him to tell him he was unnecessary year's ago