Ex drama im happily married

[Poopsiepop]

20 years ago met older guy , he was rich , and couldnt control himself , girls , parties etc . When i met him i didnt know he was already in a serious relationship already . We broke up but he kind of dumped me i think .

it was very roller coaster highs and lows , and he broke my heart .it was deep and i thought he was the one

it took a lot to sort myself out i was a mess after that . In good place now great job kids and amazing husband

15 years after it ended i called him - mainly for closure and to tell him how much it had hurt me and how unnecessary it had been

He told me that he fucked up and now all he wants is me , he loved me and missed me and his life is empty and im the only one he wants

he wants me to leave my husband he wants to marry me , i have three children and my husband is incredible

this guy was my first love . In the last 15 years i never did forget him and im slowly trying to sort out my feelings

my husband knows about the history and knows we have been in touch again

am i right to think this is just a connection i need to disconnect ?!

im slowly trying to sort out my feelings
you've had 15 years to do this.
Doesn't even sound like it was even a proper relationship.

Bonkers, isn't it?

Hey there man who treated me badly, you've been living rent free in my head for 15 years . Im erm 'happily' married and have kids but i miss being utterly walked over by you, oh love of my life, so i decided to show my husband how little he means to me by letting him know ive contacted you cos i cant get you out of my head. P.s. if you say the right things, I'll let you polish your cock.

Wow OP. Seriously, what they all said! Why would you do this?

Sometimes you come across a thread
And you know there's no point giving a response, because the op is hell bent on fucking everything up .
You contacted him ..you knew what you were doing.
I feel sorry for the husband and kids

I think some.of you need to calm.down a little. The suggestions that OP should have her children taken from her because she contacted a man, for example, are somewhat extreme and more than a little old fashioned! There have indeed been periods of history where that would happen to women. Probably still does in some parts of the world. Are you really calling for a return to Victorian divorce laws?

She has, actually, just contacted the man. She told her husband about it. Some people do keep in touch with their exes.....

I'm not sure it was very sensible of you OP, and if your husband is genuinely as lovely as you say, then if I were you I would leave it alone now....

But you don't deserve the weird slut-shaming chorus you have had on here. (All the howls of "The poor children!" Seriously? Children are harmed by their mother contacting a man, with her husband's knowledge and consent? That's a new one on me).

This place is weird sometimes -it was possibly the mention that the guy used to take drugs that did it.

This isn’t ex drama, this is 100% you drama.

You realise that you’ve instigated this, yeah?

You need to walk away from this op. The man is toxic and trying to push the destruct button on your marriage and your life. If you go along with this, you will live with the regret for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you won’t seen casenova for dust.

Gosh, he's so hopeful about getting a shag.

Seriously, let him go OP, like $hit off a shovel.

Don't mess up your husbands' and children's' lives over this loser. He will only use you and dump you again and he is a womaniser.....so you could end up alone, and miserable with a broken family.

For god sake grow up.

After 15 years you called up an ex for closure? This can’t be real.

@Poopsiepop sober up and block. Maybe your husband's giving you enough rope to hang yourself.

What is wrong with you. Why do you need closure after 15 years. You've a nice life you contact a cheating ex. Your husband deserves better.

By contacting him you have told him you are still thinking about him, still preoccupied by him and still available to him.

So obviously he sees an opportunity. He’s not a decent man, you know that. Of course he sees the opportunity for a fling handed to him on a silver plate.

You really want to blow up your life for a fling with an old flame who you know is a cheater?

What an underhand thing to do contacting him.

Pathetic to then try and justify it.

You weren't t contacting him for closure don't kid yourself, you know perfectly well what you were doing when you contacted your ex after that length of time.

I feel so sad for your poor husband, I hope he makes some choices of his and chooses to walk away from you.

He deserves better.

Fucking closure indeed.. ffs

You are an idiot OP
Grow up and stop behaving like a love sick ….
You are being played by a player whose probably chuffed to bits that he can still have you dangling to his whims after 20 years
What an ego boost for him