Aibu- boyfriend annoyed I won’t see him day after norovirus

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My boyfriend spent all day yesterday with v&d. he said it’s the sickest he has ever felt in his life. I seen him yesterday morning and then he left for work and started feeling sick around 11am. Chances are I maybe already have it but so far I feel ok. I’m recovering from a minor gynae procedure and am off work this week and next. I’m really crampy and sore and the last thing I want to do is catch this stomach bug.
my boyfriend was to come and spend the weekend with me from today and I said best to leave it for today at least. He said it’s likely I have it as we kissed yesterday morning and I’m being unreasonable not allowing him up, that this was our plans for the weekend. He was still being sick at 10pm last night.
aibu? The last thing I need is a stomach bug and retching etc with how I’m already feeling. He’s so annoyed and I think he’s out of order

we have a concert tonight so he’s pissed off about that. I wasn’t definitely got going with how I am feeling anyway but am surprised he still is (there’s a group of us, not just me and him) he says I should definitely go to the concert even if I don’t see him the rest of the day

We don’t live together and I have a son to also consider

Keep not living together, OP. What are your partner's good points? I hope you're feeling better soon.

He is out of order. I wouldn't see him either. You may have avoided it as he got ill later on in the day so I wouldn't risk it as he is definitely contagious now. I wouldn't see him even if I hadn't had any procedures as those sort of bugs spread rapidly.

Not a hope in hell would I see him.. or the day after for that matter!

I wouldn't want to see him today or probably all weekend. Especially not as you have a kid. He can be as annoyed as he wants.

I wouldn’t see him op - he’s very pushy and selfish and you are in recovery and have a little boy on top of that !!

Yanbu and I would be reconsider the relationship given how selfish he is being.

YANBU at all!! 48 hours after last bout! Minimum!!

He’s trying to say he’s not contagious and even if he is then I probably already have it

How does he know he's not contagious?

You sound wise op. Prioritise your well being and your ds's.

You are definitely doing the right thing, and he certainly shouldn't be going to any Concerts tonight. That would be very selfish behaviour. Stick to your guns OP, and hope you recover soon 💐

No way, I'd give it another few days yet. And if he keeps being an arse about it, I'd see how many days in a row I could make that...

It's the sickest he's ever felt in his life so now he wants to give it to you and your son, when you are already feeling rough recovering from a procedure? I would be furious with him to be honest for wanting to put someone he's supposed to care about at risk.

If it's a bug, he will still be contagious. I accidentally gave my bf the sickness bug even after the 48hr window had passed (went round for an evening only, no sex, didn't even use the loo whilst I was there but he still caught it so don't underestimate how contagious some of these can be!)

Yeah he’s now sending me websites which say 24 hours post last v&d is fine. I’m fuming at his lack of understanding.
his current argument now is that he came up to my house a few weeks ago when my son was sick and I was ok with that (son was at dads for night, had a bad cold/flu, I didn’t have it or get it and neither then did boyfriend) this is to show I’m hypercritical apparently

Hypocritical *

He's being a bully. Are you sure you want him around?

I am so traumatised from an experience with Norovirus that I honestly wouldn’t go near anyone for a week if I’d heard they’d had it. It was the most ill I have ever felt in my life and I genuinely wondered if I might die at one point.
It messed up my stomach and body for a good month afterwards and I barely ate and lost a lot of weight.

I never want to go through that again in my life.

That's so selfish - not only to possibly inflict it on you and your son but also other people if he's planning to go out later.

D&V is the absolute worst and apparently the latest bout is extremely contagious - I'm sure I saw something about it on the news sites earlier so perhaps response to all his links by sending him one of your own.

Or failing that consider if you really want a boyfriend like him, he doesnt sound very nice.

Idiot.
Yes, see him and transfer this to him.
If he never had it, he surely would be in for a ride.
😂
You will be contagious for another roughly three days.
Boyfriend needs to educate himself.

It's 48 hours from last time of being sick.

Saying that when I was younger my nan had neurovirus, she hadn't been sick for 4 days so came to see us.
I still caught it and I had it for a week straight it's the worse bug I've ever had. I wouldn't see him for at least 5 days.

It’s him that has it, not me

Well this makes no sense whatsoever. If you do already have it then the last thing you'll want is his company while you're struck down with D&V. And anyone who gave a shit about you wouldn't want to risk you catching it if there's a chance he's not over it yet and might still be contagious. I assume he's not a doctor so won't actually know?

Definitely keep away from him for the next 2 or 3 days at least. If he wants to sulk, let him. I don't understand how he's saying it's the worst he's ever felt ill yet still planning on going to a concert? That seems like a remarkably quick recovery!

Yes, like a pp I'm still a bit traumatised by the norovirus which hit our household a few years ago, and it did actually have a permanent digestive effect on me. We caught it from friends - we didn't know at the time but their last child had stopped being sick with it 5-6 days before.
Give him a wide berth for a week op, and if he carries on being dim and pissing you off give him a wide berth forever.

That's a point. He said it's the sickest he's ever felt yet he's happy to take the risk of you (and your son?) catching it? Just because he says he's 'not contagious' that doesn't just magically make it so, and deep down he knows it. I'm staggered that he'd even take the chance of making you ill.