Staring, does he fancy me or am I reading into it too much?

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I have an almighty crush on this bloke, think teenage girl level of crush 😂

When we've interacted I felt a bit of chemistry but also got the impression he felt a bit shy and awkward.

I've been psyching myself up to 'say something' to him as I want to find out if he's seeing anyone at the minute but feel a bit awkward myself.

I knew I was likely to bump into him today so I made an extra effort with my appearance and looked quite nice if I do say so myself.

When he clocked me as we were about to cross paths he was definitely staring, i'd even say gazing. I made a lighthearted comment "are you OK? You're staring right through me" with a big smile and a laugh, to which he replied "erh uhm I'm sorry, I didnt see you there"

He was staring right at my face 😂

I clocked him looking back in my direction after I'd passed on but he just as easily could have been checking if the bus was coming.

So, would you take that as a sign of him finding me attractive / being interested or would you think he was just in a world of his own and I'm deluded because I want to jump his bones?

Thanks for giving me a push you lot, I saw him today and went for it. I got his number and he is interested!

I don't usually see him on Wednesdays as its his day off so I was surprised to see him en route to work this morning. He looked very dapper, almost as if he was doing what I was doing yesterday 😂

I think he was trying to bump into me on purpose.

He spotted me and crossed the road to say hi and I thought sod it, I said I was glad to have bumped into him as I was going to ask for his telephone number.

He gave me it, I called so he had mine, then I had to dash for the bus so said I'd text him later. He said he hopes I will and winked at me 😩🥵

Eeeeeeek!!

There you go then! Don't piss around - text him this evening. Might as well keep the ball rolling.

Just have 😁

😂 Go for it OP. 💘💞

👀What did you say? Any reply?

Say hello, get chatting and then just ask him if he fancies grabbing a drink sometime.

I don't get why you are dressing up, playing guessing games of did he peek at me and trying to 'flirt'. Dating really isn't THAT hard, just ask it can only be yes or no and then its done. If its no its not anymore likely to become a yes by dragging it out and acting weird.

I've asked if he had plans for Friday, he said he hasn't and would I like to make some 😄

Great update, OP!
Good luck, and have fun!

Ahh love this update, I just gave a little squeal. Place-marking so I can read all about the date on Friday!

Place keeping so I can read about it Friday😆

I'm always willing to be proved wrong, excellent news, I hope it goes really well for you both!

OP I love this!! Shamelessly place marking!

The problem is, and I'm facing it with the man I fancy like crazy, is that if we don't put ourselves out there, they'll never know.

I was so bright and bubbly with this man because we clicked personality wise, that I then forced myself to be the same with everyone, so now it just looks like I'm really bright and bubbly.

Which, considering I'm actually a bit shy, and neurodiverse, is exhausting! 😁

Terrified of rejection if I'm more open, but also terrified of not at least making a chance.

It’s harder when you’re really invested in someone like the OP seems to be though.

I played ‘games’ with a guy for several months as I wanted to be quite sure I got the signals right. ‘No’ is a lot more devastating if you really like someone. But also a longer lead time and ensuring they notice you can make for a more definite ‘yes’

Yay. Tell us more…

Great work of fiction.

I would find it creepy if someone stared at me and wouldn't do it to anyone myself

Are you new here? That’s a tale as regular as having fish fingers for tea.

Got to find out what happens next!

Knew it! Well done OP, hope the date goes well 😊

If it was fiction I wouldn't call it great...two people attracted to each other, one asks for the other for their phone number then they plan a date. Sounds like a normal occurrence to me.

Great update OP, can't wait to hear how Friday goes!

Are trolls really this boring these days? Things have gone downhill since the good old T-rex arms days..

So I had to rearrange today because my ex messed me around having the children but we have rescheduled for Monday evening (thanks to my DM) so not the end of the world and only a few more days to go.

We've been texting lots and he seems keen, asking me lots of questions about hobbies and interests, plenty of banter back and forth. He said he had no idea I liked him in that way 😁

Well that was the shortest lived 'thing' in my entire dating history 😂

We rearranged for tomorrow after i had childcare issues, everything was fine and he was still super engaging. He text yesterday morning but has since gone silent. This is only relevant because he was texting alot and is definitely a texter!

I sent a message this afternoon to confirm all is well for tomorrow and he's seen the message but left me on read despite being online constantly and watching all of my WhatsApp stories (soon after I post them!)

I'd prefer he just cancelled so I could make other plans with more notice.

Bit rude that isn't it?

So yeah, doesn't look like it's a goer after all.

He's playing you like a fiddle. Would you still go if he texts back later or in the morning?