Do men marry women they don't find incredibly attractive?

[kinsey681]

But just ok to look at, so he doesn't find her to look the back end of a bus, but he doesn't think she's movie-star-gorgeous either?

There’s a significant difference between movie star levels of attractive and the average Brit. The definition of “gorgeous” is subjective. Loads of conventionally unattractive people are married and have sex…I don’t think the bar is set as high as you think. Spouses are attractive to each other but may not necessarily be extremely attractive in general.

I think men, as they're biologically programmed to have multiple partners, are actually much less discerning than we think when it comes to physical attractiveness in a woman.

It's more that they find a few aspects alluring enough to fancy you, like nice eyes, nice bum etc.

I actually find abusers often date up in terms of looks, but select a woman who doesn't have strong self esteem/self confidence/self assurance (that can quite easily be a woman who has confidence in work or other aspects of life, but not in intimate relationships)

....and then abuse her to keep her in her place.

I think when you love someone so much that you want to marry them that it's not just their physical appearance that makes them attractive to you - it's everything. Their personality, their attitude, their belief system, the way they treat others etc. My husband is the most attractive man in the world to me simply because of who he is as a person. I'm also physically attracted to him too, but others may not be and that's fine 🤷🏻‍♀️