if nothing is going on the bedroom is it you or your other half who is uninterested?

[not2nighthoney]

name change. It is definately dh in our bedroom who seems to have lost all interest in sex. its almost as if he can't be asked!!!! its been over 4 months and I don't even remember the time before that.

Why not just jump on him and give him a blow job, i bet he wouldnt refuse then. Also on a more serious note, its worth checking he has nothing worrying him etc etc

In our case it's both. So that works out just fine and we're happy with that. Sounds like you're not happy with your situation. That makes it a problem, so you need to do something. Have you discussed it with him?

mostly me-lately sometimes him.

Dh never wants it and i always do! Causes a big problem especially after 3 or 4 weeks as i start getting very argumentative with him over it! Infact we are now in middle of argument about lack of it!

both

Both now, but it was dp who wasn't that interested for years and I just got fed up with bringing up the subject and trying to talk it through with him . It's still an issue (for me, not for him) but there's so much that's good about our relationship, our family, the way we parent our kids and live together, that I've sort of learned to live with it. Wish I could find a way to change things, though (it'd have to be me because he doesn't perceive it as a problem...)