Husband leaving me for a sex worker

[FireTiger24]

I am undergoing chemo for breast cancer and have just found out that my husband has been cheating on me since my diagnosis with an online sex worker. He has only known this women for a couple of months, they are in love and is now setting up house for her and her child. She does not live locally so she is have to move from the north to the south so they have only met each other 2 times so far. We have 2 children together 10 and 4 that he wants 50/50.

I just don't know how someone who says they loved me and our children can do this and whether I should be concerned about him and his current actions.

Oh OP I’m so sorry you have been betrayed when you need support. He’s a fool, but you can’t help him, your concern must be reserved for you and your DC.

photograph bank statements, savings accounts etc & all important docs-go for 1/2 pension. What an idiot-good luck

Is she going to continue being a sex worker when he’s moved her in with him? I assume not, so he’ll be bankrolling her. Sorry but I wouldn’t want my kids to be living with someone in that profession, I’m not sure it would go down too well with a judge/social services either, so I would get evidence of that if I were you.

He sounds like an utter loser OP I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with all this on top of cancer and chemo. Definitely seek real life support, it’s not your responsibility to keep this a secret for him. Look after yourself and honestly be pleased you’re rid of him overall.

I am so sorry that you are going through all of this.

Please lean on any real life support that you can. Be honest with family and friends about what he has said and done before he gets in with his version of events.

I'd also go and see a solicitor as quickly as possible. Hunt around and take copies of bank accounts/pensions/investments and any other financial documentation that you can find.

Yep - BiL did similar. He is convinced that the very young cam girls and prostitutes and sugar babies that he gets involved with think of him differently than their other clients. That he (aged 63) can still pull a 20 yr old and the money is just him “supporting friends in difficult times”. Eyes can’t roll far enough. He’s currently living with one of them to whom he pays an “allowance” to help her support her family in Zimbabwe.

The man is a total coward and an absolute cunt.

I hate that word but he is one to do that to you especially now.

I agree he will come back begging forgiveness, I hope you laugh in his face.

He really has shown you what a horrible man he is, like they say on here, when someone shows you who they are believe them.

I hope you feel better really soon and when you do, get yourself out there and find a nice man to share your life with xxx

Make sure you k ow where all the money is make sure you get divorced and get as much as you can out of him now. Do not let him come crawling back. He’s such a sad sack.

Why should you be concerned about him or his actions!? If he had cancer would you be running off with someone else or would you be too busy trying to care for him and your kids to even think about that. Stop being nice, he’s just done the dirty on you, he doesn’t deserve your empathy or compassion, he’s shown you zero! Get angry!!!

Also I hope your chemo goes well OP, be well (and get fucking angry).

I also know someone whose husband (50s) got involved with a cam girl from overseas and paid her to come over here. Deluded old fools.

Very similar happened to one of my lovely relatives. Her scumbag of a husband cheated on her while she was having treatment then married the evil bitch (who pursued him knowing the situation) further down the line. The result years later was his three kids have virtually nothing to do with him and he has no contact with his grandchildren. Even his own parents and brother despised him for what he did. He is now a very sad old man who secretly regrets everything. Not one of us gives a shit.

This never ends well for these shitty men.

So sorry you're going through this OP.

All of these old idiots…there’s no fool like an old fool. And yes your husband will end up just another miserable bitter sad old man like the rest of them. When men put their dicks first this is what happens to them.

I think he is deluded. He can't possibly think that this person he has been paying to be nice to him actually is going to move halfway across the country with a child to a man she's met twice?!
Get your finances sorted and wait for the scales to fall when he realises that he's left his family for a fantasy and begs to come back. Don't let him back!

What an absolute bastard.

How do you know she is a sex worker? Surely if you can get proof that she is, that is evidence that it is an unsafe environment for the children to be in?

She's probably introducing him to all kinds of sexual excstacy but she'll get a headache eventually. Give yourself lots of loving care. 😘

He’s probably riddled. She’s going to rinse him dry and laugh about it what an absolute mug he is. You’re well rid. He’s a disgusting piece of shit.

Evil man

Someone made a thread about men doing all they do for just only sex.
Now, this is the proof
dear poster, tbh , God is saving you from this perv. Look at it this way and tell his parents also

I’m so sorry this has happened to you, it must be a terrible shock at a very difficult time.

In the long run I think you will find you are better off. Your husband is obviously extremely naive/deluded about sex workers who shack up with clients. She will be off again as soon as she lands a bigger fish who is less encumbered with children.

Lawyer up and get the best deal possible for yourself.

What a scumbag. Protect your finances. She'll take him for all he's worth then spit him out.

He is scum. Good luck with everything.

Wow what an absolute d!ckhead. Can't believe he's done that to you when you needed him the most.
Leave the bastard in the past. Focus on yourself and I really hope you have a full recovery.
Sending you 💐

This sounds like a scam. One where he loses all the family's money.

I now see all relationships through this lens. My husband has a sexual need which is like eating, sleeping and breathing to him.i only found this out over time as my libido dropped after menopause.

Men's main driver is sex over and above everything and everything else is dressing it up to keep women happy and to stay with them.

All the me too accused , all the famous powerful men that trade in their same age wife for a younger model.

I know a lot won't agree but unfortunately this is how I see things now through my experience of the world.

And sorry about your diagnosis, wishing you the best with treatment.

To the PPs saying because this woman is a SW she isn’t safe to be around children… in my experience it is the men who pay them who are the ‘unsafe’ ones…

For what it's worth stupid punters like this one, who actually believe the bullshit working girls tell them, are absolutely derided by them. Women tend to do sex work and have a few niave men paying for housing, clothing, their kids etc. But they never get thanked, or any respect for it, just enough sexual action (like the absolute bare minimum) to keep them on the hook. Then they get laughed about behind their backs. It's a twisted, rough, and dark, world your DH has entered indeed!
Anyway much more important is your health and your children.