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Talk to me about dating apps ...♥️

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guildingthelily · 19/10/2024 21:05

Hi there, I think I'm finally ready to start looking for love again. And would like your advice on which app might be best suited for me.

I'm separated, age 47, two kids of secondary school age, leftie, educated professional, well travelled. Average looking but apparently look younger than I am 🏋🏼‍♀️Looking for something serious with the right person. Or potentially just hot sex no strings attached 😂

Please give your recommendations oh wise mumsnetters 🫶🏼

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occhiazzurri · 21/10/2024 14:12

@guildingthelily - you may also want to check out the general dating thread

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5170537-dating-thread-250-autumn?page=10

and this recent one too

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5192212-lets-not-pretend-about-online-dating

Entertainmentcentral · 21/10/2024 14:21

They work if you're attractive. One time in 50--100. Cut down on the work by meeting anyone you like for a coffee in a public place ASAP. If they're not free and ready to meet they're wasting your time. I can't be doing with all the texting. The same people tend to be on them all so it makes little difference - Hinge or Bumble would be my suggestions. Someone said stick to the free versions - is not worth your time to do this. If you're going to the effort of creating a profile you might as well be seen.

Thatsthebottomline · 14/05/2025 12:06

occhiazzurri · 19/10/2024 22:56

@Autumnblackberries - couldn’t have said it better! Also to add - there are very few remotely attractive and fit men last age 40 so @guildingthelily it is only worth the time and effort if you are going for flings/casual sexual with men in their 20s/30s.

The term “fit and attractive” is going to be a real problem because the definition is quite loose. Generally though if you looking (and they all are) for that 6 ft 4, muscular , earns 300k a year man with a child “he dotes on but cant see very often because her mum works in LA” kind of thing, then, yes finding that is going to be hard. As we get older, men are expected to get fitter and taller and, of course, richer. Whereas all women are beautiful, apparently. I went to Ladies Day at a racecourse and did not see many “Ladies”, but lots of throwing up and shagging in toilets

I personally wouldn’t bother with any of the dating apps. They are full of people who seem to want sex with people twenty years younger than themselves, but naturally, only men do that.

Find someone in real life or don't bother. I’d prefer the latter if im honest.

superplumb · 14/05/2025 12:11

TwistedWonder · 19/10/2024 21:33

At 47 you’ll be bombarded by men in their late 50’s and 60’s convinced women 10/20 years their junior are desperate for them.

It’s pretty slim pickings out there but you could strike lucky. Maybe join the dating thread and get advice from other single ladies

Bumble is probably best one to start as it’s more female friendly than some of the others.

Edited

Where is the dating thread on here..can't find jt

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