No judgement needed please.. I've never had a ONS before and I guess this is classed as one and it's a little bit hard to explain briefly..
So, rewind a couple of weeks ago I bump into this guy who I've fancied for ages. We got on well, was quite flirty etc, we ended up kissing and then going back to his and sleeping together. Which was absolutely great.. my problem now is I can't stop thinking about him.
A couple weeks prior to this ons.. I actually went on a first date with someone. The person I went on a date with, the ONS guy knows, they are kind of friends.
But my problem is, I don't want to go on another date with this guy. So I won't. But I didn't make that clear to ONS guy. So he probably is thinking it was a quick hook up; and that I'm going to go on another date with this guy he knows.
He knows I went on a first date with this guy he knows prior to sleeping together.
Yeah it was a nice enough date, but that's all it was. Where as I've felt this sexual tension between me and ONS guy for ages now.. he admitted he has felt that too but is skeptical to get to know anyone due to past heartbreak so purposely kept his distance prior.
I NEVER had any idea he even found me attractive.. so when his friend asked me for a date, I thought well I guess there is no harm in just having a drink and seeing if we get on.. it's been months and months since i first met the ONS guy that I fancy.. so I kinda convinced myself I had to push the ONS guy to the back of my mind and get over the fact I fancied him as I thought he was so uninterested.
What I'm trying to say is, I'd love for there to maybe be something with ONS guy.. but I don't know how to tell if he would want the same? I don't know if he would knowing his friend likes me? But it didn't stop him sleeping with me? Honestly, the chemistry was just amazing. I haven't fancied someone this much in years so I just feel like I have no idea how to go about this.
Do I just tell him that it's not worked out with his acquaintance and that I can't stop thinking about him? Do I just take a step back entirely and hope that he eventually hears things didn't work out with his acquaintance and see if he reaches out? Like it was only one date? Surely that's not classed as being that deep? I know people who date and sleep with multiple people (no judgement)
I'm 100% fine that we both went into it expecting it to be a one night stand. This isn't me saying I've fallen for him or have strong feelings. It's me saying wow; that was amazing and I'd love to do it again, and again, and who knows.. see where it goes if we're both interested in each other! But I don't know if he just saw it as a quick ONS with a girl he finds pretty: or whether he even enjoyed it and would do it again.. or whether he regrets it.. argh! Help. My brain just doesn't know what to do!