Only Ever Oral...

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Name change for this one as it is delicate, but it has been on my mind for quite some time and I want to get some other opinions. My xdh and I were together for 11 years, and we had four children. But after about the first year, he only ever wanted to have oral sex or mutual masturbation sessions. I used to think he didn't want to lose sight of his own John Thomas in the middle of it all. Do you think he might have been gay?

I dunno

Given that he is your Xh now, does it really matter ?

Four children in 1 year?

Maybe full on sex was just too intimate for him. The fact that he still had oral sex with you - a woman - doesn't make it seem likely that he was gay. Unless he never gave it of course!

Did you ever question him about it?

4 in a year? That's more than me

It does seem strange, but I don't know about gay...

Some people just really LIKE oral sex. I prefer this aspect of a sex life to intercourse itself and so does my DH.

I think it has no bearing on someones sexuality-you tend to do a lot of what you really enjoy!

Sounds like he didn't want the intimacy as SWBL said.

Some men will not have full on contact and resort to sex where they don't have to 'feel' the other person but rather close their eyes and imagine things or see the woman doing it as an abstract object. Either way, it doesn't sound nice and you should be glad he's an Ex.

maybe he found it easier to orgasm through oral?

I thought oral sex was just most men's favourite way to have it... I know my DH would love to have it this way all the time if he could get away with it!

maybe he thought he had supersperm and youd get pregnant every time?

TBH I find that oral sex is just about as intimate as it gets. Penetrative sex done in a functional way, disinterested way is the pits and wham, bam, thankyou ma'am is crap.

But it doesn't really matter does it, since he is your ex anyway.