My boyfriend always asks to borrow money

[Peaches2677]

Me and my boyfriend are both 30.
I have my own place that I live in with our daughter (7 months old)

Me and boyfriend have never lived together. He still lives at home with his mother and 2 siblings.

Hes always in and out of jobs. He will have a job for a good few months then will lose it. He currently is out of work at the mmoment which means I'm getting no child maintenence off him. But not just that he's asked to borrow money a few times in the last 2 weeks. He currently owes me £60 because I've given in and lent him money.

He said the money is for food as his mother has been having ago at him about the amount of food he's eating and not paying her anything towards rent/bills etc. Which is completely understandable

I dont know what to think at the moment. This isn't even a question I guess I just needed to vent. I mean this has been going on since before having a baby and it's not making me want a future with him at all.

The word "ponce" instantly comes to mind. Get rid of him. I am astounded at how many women put up with drones like him.

What exactly attracted you to this prince ?

It’s probably already been stated… but I’d stop giving him money, end things and put a CMS claim in.

30yo old, living with mum and unable to hold a job down is not a great catch. Throw him back.

A 30 year who’s fathered a child, lives with his mother and can’t hold a job down?
WTF is wrong with him and what the hell have you ever seen in him?

Focus on your child and plan a future without him.

If he doesn't understand at 30 that it's his job to provide for his kid not for his mother and girlfriend to provide for him, he's never going to.

Whatever you do don't let him move in with you. He will leech off you even more.

Throw this one back OP, and do your best to get as much CMA as you can out of him.

Any future you have with this man will not be a good one for either you or your child.

You’re basically just a cash machine and sex for him. He sounds very irresponsible and immature.

Why did you procreate with this absolute waste of space.

Stop loaning him money.
If he kicks off, tell him that you will loan him money when he's cleared his outstanding debts first - so he pays you back the £60 he already owes you.

This is not a good sign when someone is regularly looking for money and they can't budget for themselves.

You clearly have two children - one of them still lives with his mother and is unemployed

Why you had a child with him is beyond my understanding

OP ignore the criticism about why you had a child with him. It is what it is and I am sure you wouldn't be without the child now, so pointless comments. I agree though no more loans. The truth is many men don't grow up until their 40s if ever. So don't hold your breath. Make a lovely life for you and your child, and if and when he gets a job go down the maintenance route. If he hasn't got a job you would get pennies so look to maximising your income so be as self reliant as possible💐

You are looking after yourself and your child (and his) that's enough. I would be saving any spare money in case you need it in the future because you definitely can't rely on him.

I was expecting you to say you were both like 20, not 30. Sort your lives out. You’re not kids ffs.

Stop enabling him. You need your money for yourself and your daughter.
I would be telling him to grow up if it would be over.

Get rid. He's a loser.

I would cut him loose.

They're everywhere.

He's having a laugh isn't he. Thinks because you have his child you are an easy touch for money. I wouldget onto the government network and apply for child maintenance. He may even be claiming for your child on his benefits! Dump him ASAP. Get a life of your own without him dragging you down.