How long do you think it takes to fall in love with someone?

[RichTea90]

Just simply curious… I know that it is different for every body, but if you were dating someone, how long do you think it takes to “fall in love” or know that you’ve developed feelings for them?

I’m difficult to engage. Months.

Hmmmm I think I took around 6 weeks with DH… but the attraction and connection was hours.

I’d be similar to be honest, maybe 6 months+
Ive been with my fiance a long time, so I can’t really remember!

This is interesting, it was like this with my husband too. Despite a divorce and various dates etc.... I've recently met someone and the connection is insane.

A few months?

Depends on the person, some are slow burns and some are like lightning.

Was the connection straight away? Do you not think that’s infatuation / honeymoon phase?

Yeah, this is true.
as a personality, I am a slow burner and take some time to develop intimate feelings I think!
but I feel like love and connection/chemistry are two different things.

Oh they definitely are - but I have experienced love at first sight and a love that grew from someone I didn’t even fancy to start with. I also still love people that I no longer fancy!

I fell in love with my ex husband after about three months. I was 17.

I'm in a newish relationship now and I fell in love in about three weeks!

@RichTea90

I don't feel infatuated, if anything I'm far more cautious because it's like we have known each other for years and that isn't the case x

We can talk for hours, if anything it's shown me how little effort my last boyfriend made.

When I met the last man I loved, within ten minutes of meeting him, I just felt, oh there you are then. And I just knew. More recognition and peace rather than ‘lightning’.

I’ll love him forever, I think. Feels like I knew him in a past life.

Long enough to have had some disagreements and have resolved them.

Long enough to have negotiated a situation where you earned each other's trust.

Long enough to have seen each other at your worst.

I'd say at least a year.

Around 6 months here too. Lots of tossing and turning and long chats with mates though.

That’s so lovely!!

@CabbagesAndCeilingWax

This is an interesting take. Kind of a long the lines of how I think and feel…

Attraction was fairly quick (definitely in first couple dates). Love I'd say few months. But enduring love takes longer probably a couple of years.

People often rush off the back of initial love. But it's not reliable for the long term.

100%

Such a romantic 🤔

But this sounds like an enduring kind of love to me.

As I get older, I feel like there are different types of love.

Seconds… for both of us. Met in 1998 when I was 15 but it didn’t work out. Always thought about him and stayed in touch. We both became single in 2017…he came to see me early jan 2018…. Was like we’d never been apart. After about 3 months we split for about a week, couldn’t be apart and that was that. As these last almost 7 years have passed it’s turned into a very very deep love. Cannot imagine being without him and believe even if we split, we’d be best friends. We are both hard work and have to fight sometimes to stay together but we work through things, together. Couldn’t imagine loving anyone again ever.

Very, very quickly. Way quicker than I'd have thought sensible. But the heart rules the head in these situations.
What I can say is that after 7 years that love is so powerful and entwined in every part of who I am. It evolved and entrenched itself in my deep in my soul. I've had 2 previous long term relationships to compare it to - and there is no comparison at all. That was love, and I had children with them. But they were slow burns for sure. And never ever reached deep in me like this. He is my forever. And I know I'm his.

So wonderful. So happy for you both 🥰

Literally 3 maybe 4 seconds. I am aware I sound bonkers.

How is this possible? 😂