Sulking or am I in the wrong?

[CM97]

So I've been dating someone after meeting on line for 3 months now... messaged for a month before that but he was away with work so we didn't meet for a month. We live 2 hours apart and are both busy. Dates have been sporadic which kind of suited me initially. His daughter was moving to Australia for 2 years, and he wanted to spend time with her which I completely understood so I waited. However, she left, he had to go away for work for 10 days and then returned. We saw each other last weekend and this week he was came to my home town for work.

He suggested meeting after his work dinner on the Tuesday but it was going to be after 10 pm and I had work the next day so said let's meet on the Wednesday. Anyway - long story short but we didn't meet because his work don't go well and he wanted to get back home.

He's been really busy so we hadn't spoken all week, yesterday I messaged to say what's happened/why has he been distant etc? No response initially which is unusual for him.

Then he replied and said my texts were not what he was expecting and we'd talk later.

Then later, he said my messages have thrown him and he needs time to process. I said fine, does he want me to explain etc, he said no he is tired.

So I think about it, and this morning I text and say that I need more than meeting for dinner and a night together in a hotel every 3-6 weeks, (He's def not married, I've been to his house), and he's seen my message but not replied.

Surely this doesn't need thinking about, either he wants to date me or he doesn't? Why the silent treatment?

I'm long enough in the tooth to realise there's no Prince Charming on his way. Just someone who can communicate will be a start though.😂
Tbh I feel for him, my impression was that he was completely panicked by the possibility of having to communicate. Pretty sad to be like that at the age of 55.

It's only been 3 month - the honeymoon period, and you are already doing mental cartwheels because of communication. You are too good for this man OP. Unless you always want to be last on his list.

I wouldn't even call it the honeymoon period, it's the getting to know you period. Such early days and hardly met in person.

I'd recommend not to spend so long messaging before meeting - I think better to meet within the first couple of weeks. Too much messaging can give a false sense of intimacy.

If he's not available for dates, why is he dating at the time? Don't hang about for blokes to make themselves available.

If he's got something big going on or whatever reason/excuse, just say for him to hit you up when whatever is resolved and don't keep messaging in between, date other people. You're not his girlfriend, you're not even friends yet, don't get into listeningto his troubles. If he's lucky, you might still be single when he's actually free to date.

Wishing you all the best in the future, OP. X