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2 questions about sexuality

113 replies

Berocco43 · 04/10/2024 13:43

Just curious (as a gay woman myself and supporting a friend whose coming out later in life)

  1. what is your sexual orientation?
  2. regardless of your answer above- have you ever had a romantic or sexual interaction with the same sex?
OP posts:
SiobhanSharpe · 04/10/2024 13:44

Heterosexual.
No, zero interest from me.

Kerkyra2024 · 04/10/2024 13:48

Heterosexual and I've never felt attraction to other women personally. I'm also Demi in that I need to be especially close with a person to be comfortable for sex and being in a relationship with them is a must alongside that

Georgie743 · 04/10/2024 13:48
  1. gay
  2. yes - slept with several women. Now married to one!
raydavis · 04/10/2024 13:55

Heterosexual

Can look at a woman and find her attractive but no desire to kiss or sleep with her.

It's strange, as if I see a particularly attractive woman I can find I can't take my eyes off her but more in admiration rather than romantic or sexual. Think the best word I could think of is that I'd be captivated by an attractive female but more in an "I wish I was her" type of way and imagine what her life could be like etc

BobbyBiscuits · 04/10/2024 13:59

I'd say I'm 90% straight. I have done few things with girls when I was younger but it didn't really do much for me. But I do find women's bodies sexually attractive. I feel that I could fall in love with a woman, but it would be pretty unlikely. Especially as I'm happily with a man and no desire to branch out, so to speak.
I sometimes 'envy' my lesbian friends. As being with men has all sorts of challenges. I'm sure there are just as many with women though, they're just a bit different.

Ws2210 · 04/10/2024 14:01

Bisexual

Yes, sexual interactions. Most of my relationships have been with men though. I do sometimes wonder if I'm gay as most of my fantasies are about women.

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 04/10/2024 14:01

Berocco43 · 04/10/2024 13:43

Just curious (as a gay woman myself and supporting a friend whose coming out later in life)

  1. what is your sexual orientation?
  2. regardless of your answer above- have you ever had a romantic or sexual interaction with the same sex?

Straight
i experimented when I was about 18, I was curious. But I just didn’t feel as connected in a relationship with a woman.

Freshflower · 04/10/2024 14:03

I'm 100% heterosexual and feel I could only ever fancy men or fall in love with a man. Ive looked at a girl and thought oh shes pretty but nothing more .Saying that though, I do sometimes find some woman's bodies and bits sexually attractive and may consider a sexual experience with one

PersephoneAgrees · 04/10/2024 14:05

I am heterosexual and have no sexual interest in women, although as pp have said, I can appreciate an attractive charismatic woman, just not in a romantic way.

DramaAlpaca · 04/10/2024 14:09

1 Heterosexual female
2 No. I have zero interest in women sexually

Morefunhere · 04/10/2024 14:12

Went off men after 2nd divorce.
Celibate, then dated women, now have a female partner, not living together.
I enjoy the affection and softness. But it is only mutual masturbation not sexual intercourse. A bit second rate.

OhShitImNearly40 · 04/10/2024 14:14

Straight
No, never even considered it for more than a second. Just not in my nature.

OhShitImNearly40 · 04/10/2024 14:14

Morefunhere · 04/10/2024 14:12

Went off men after 2nd divorce.
Celibate, then dated women, now have a female partner, not living together.
I enjoy the affection and softness. But it is only mutual masturbation not sexual intercourse. A bit second rate.

Haha, a bit second rate!

redboxer321 · 04/10/2024 14:17

OhShitImNearly40 · 04/10/2024 14:14

Haha, a bit second rate!

You're doing it wrong @Morefunhere if it's second rate.

GuestFeatu · 04/10/2024 14:22

I'm straight but I've had crushes on women and have done group stuff with them but genuinely wouldn't want a romantic relationship with a woman or a one to one hook up

Morefunhere · 04/10/2024 14:22

@redboxer321 It's usually me that gets it wrong. That was problem with exHs!
I think we can't go further on an open forum.

DixonD · 04/10/2024 14:31
  1. 100% straight
  2. Never been attracted to women at all
redboxer321 · 04/10/2024 14:31

Sorry it I was insensitive @Morefunhere

To answer OP:
Gay woman
Yes

Makemyminduponeday · 04/10/2024 14:37

When I was younger I had a lot of gay friends and had some minor excursions into sexual encounters with other women.
I'm from an older generation and possibly if it had been more acceptable when I was younger to be honest about sexuality I would have accepted I was bisexual. As it was I hid that side of myself and I regret that now.

CassieMaddox · 04/10/2024 14:43
  1. Don't know because
  2. Yes but have been in exclusively hetero relationships for the past 25 years.

I don't like labelling my sexuality at all. Others would perceive me as straight but it's not necessarily the case. I think sexuality is a "moment in time" thing that can change at different points and in response to different people.

Thegreenhandbag · 04/10/2024 14:43
  1. straight
  2. No. Well, I was taken aback a few years ago when I did feel really strong sexual attraction for a lesbian at an event I was at. But I was imaging her with a cock in bed with me. So I don’t think that counts. I just really like the cock bit. And men’s bodies. It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.
CassieMaddox · 04/10/2024 14:45

Thegreenhandbag · 04/10/2024 14:43

  1. straight
  2. No. Well, I was taken aback a few years ago when I did feel really strong sexual attraction for a lesbian at an event I was at. But I was imaging her with a cock in bed with me. So I don’t think that counts. I just really like the cock bit. And men’s bodies. It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.
Edited

It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.
😂

Mabelface · 04/10/2024 14:45

Another I don't know.

DramaAlpaca · 04/10/2024 14:47

It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.

Haha, yes!

raydavis · 04/10/2024 14:57

CassieMaddox · 04/10/2024 14:43

  1. Don't know because
  2. Yes but have been in exclusively hetero relationships for the past 25 years.

I don't like labelling my sexuality at all. Others would perceive me as straight but it's not necessarily the case. I think sexuality is a "moment in time" thing that can change at different points and in response to different people.

Why would someone perceive you as straight, unless you told them you were straight?

Or do you mean got married to a man and people would therefore assume you were straight?