2 questions about sexuality

[Berocco43]

Just curious (as a gay woman myself and supporting a friend whose coming out later in life)

1. what is your sexual orientation?
2. regardless of your answer above- have you ever had a romantic or sexual interaction with the same sex?

I'm bisexual. Always said that to close friends. Always been with me as was anxious of the fall out with my parents and because I wanted children. I did a fair bit of fooling about with females as a teen/20's but never a relationship. After my last relationship ended and as my father is dead I started dating a woman finally. I much prefer women, they have sexier bodies, not overly sec orientated, more understanding, don't have weaponised incompetence, accept a no without sulking or nagging.

I do agree sexual orientation is a spectrum. I'm more the lesbian end but homophobic parents kept me denying it for years

Bi, though I find my sexuality has largely just - for lack of a better word, I'd like to find a better way to describe this - been channelled into my marriage to my spouse that I noticed in the last few years that I no longer experience even the 'they're hot' with anyone else. I have absolutely no idea, but even though we've been together since we were teenagers, there was a shift during my late 30s, that's only recently clicked for me that the wider parts of my sexuality have just contently vanished.

Yes, I have.

Lesbian. Dated men, and married one until I was 29.

so yes.

I'm straight.

Never had a sexual interaction with a woman.

BUT I am feeling conflicted ATM. Previous to my marriage I found men attractive and I enjoyed sex with men. I married a man who I thought I loved and I was initially devastated when he left unexpectedly 18 months ago.

I was taken aback by how quickly I adjusted to single life and how little I miss him. Divorce is brutal but life is peaceful, free, fun and hopeful. I feel like myself more than I can remember ever feeling before now.

For the first time in my life I seem to have no sexual attraction to men at all. I'm happily single and able to meet my own needs 😉. I have some wonderful female friends, I don't fancy them but I am acutely aware of how much I enjoy their company and would much rather spend time with them than a man,

Sometimes I wonder if my body knows it has finished with reproducing and is no longer prepared to tolerate mens' twattish behaviour in exchange for sex!

Loving some of the answers here

Men probably not so lol
I’m don’t think I could be in a relationship with a woman but their definition/understanding of intimacy is more far reaching than men probably by about 80%

I could have written this, except the envy bit as sadly lots of my lesbian and gay friends still experience homophobia.

Very occasionally, I will meet a woman and really fancy her, but I'm in a (straight) relationship so obviously don't act on it!

I don't think that's what's happening here. I think women are just more honest about their private sexual responses. Most women here are straight (form romantic attachments to men) but have been turned on by a woman in the past. If only men were just as honest - the majority of straight men have probably been extremely horny for a guy in the past too.

You might add that's a product of homophobia - than it's more "acceptable" for a woman to experience same sex desire - and you'd probably be right

Do you have young children?

Because I was like this for years when exhausted with toddlers etc. And then it came roaring back. I now am back to randomly catching eyes on the tube etc (totally happy in my marriage, just being a sexual being, finding people hot again returned).

Although it was very interesting to notice that when I reconnected with that side of myself the men noticing me were suddenly a LOT older 😅 Very confronting

@LostittoBostik said "Although it was very interesting to notice that when I reconnected with that side of myself the men noticing me were suddenly a LOT older 😅 Very confronting".
Upthread I said I am Bi with a GF, the remark about older men rang a bell with me. Not acted on the opportunities so far but shall think about it.

Yeah, but I gave it a couple of good goes.

All is fluid is certainly true about our sexuality overall. (IMO)
These trends vary over age and fertility stages of our lives. There is also, I suggest, an ebb and flow with our usual cycles.
Has any one who has posted or followed this thread noticed any changes to their own horniness this weekend. I have to say that Friday night when GF stayed over was about the most enjoyable we have known. Perhaps I had been thinking and considering her more.