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2 questions about sexuality

113 replies

Berocco43 · 04/10/2024 13:43

Just curious (as a gay woman myself and supporting a friend whose coming out later in life)

  1. what is your sexual orientation?
  2. regardless of your answer above- have you ever had a romantic or sexual interaction with the same sex?
OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2024 15:00

I just really like the cock bit. And men’s bodies. It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.

I've said it before and I will say it again, cock is good but the issue is often what it's attached to.

In answer to you OP; straight and I've snogged a few women with zero fanny gallops. Just doesn't do it for me.

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/10/2024 15:08

Bisexual.

Yes. My relationships and sexual partners have been roughly 50/50 women and men.

RuffledKestrel · 04/10/2024 15:10
  1. Open minded
  2. No.
CassieMaddox · 04/10/2024 15:19

raydavis · 04/10/2024 14:57

Why would someone perceive you as straight, unless you told them you were straight?

Or do you mean got married to a man and people would therefore assume you were straight?

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Yeah the latter. But in general people assume others are straight by default.

CurlewKate · 04/10/2024 15:26

Straight. And yes.

DreadPirateRobots · 04/10/2024 15:29

Bisexual.

Fooled around with women, but DH and I met young so it's never gone further than that. I've never fallen in love with a woman, but I think I could. I certainly get crushes on women and feel strongly attracted to them.

Sarah2891 · 04/10/2024 15:31

Asexual
No

LostittoBostik · 04/10/2024 15:34

Heterosexual (I'm married to a man and have only dated men)

Yes, I suspect I'm some where towards bi on the Kinsey scale, but haven't ever explored this as an adult. Had one same sex as a teenager, but it was more driven by exploration than lust.

If I was ever single again I would be open to a same sex relationship, but I find myself mostly attracted to men.

LostittoBostik · 04/10/2024 15:37

Thegreenhandbag · 04/10/2024 14:43

  1. straight
  2. No. Well, I was taken aback a few years ago when I did feel really strong sexual attraction for a lesbian at an event I was at. But I was imaging her with a cock in bed with me. So I don’t think that counts. I just really like the cock bit. And men’s bodies. It’s just their actual personalities that are often the turn off.
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Ha so much truth in that

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 04/10/2024 16:03

Bisexual
Married to a man but have had sexual experiences with women both 1:1 and in groups. Actually I've slept with more women than I have men 😂

MWNA · 04/10/2024 16:19

Lesbian. Lots of attraction, lots of sex. (Post menopausal now and not remotely interested but had an outrageously happy sex life from 15-50).
Never attracted sexually to a man.

JBJ · 04/10/2024 16:34

I don't really know how to define it.

Had relationships exclusively with men, but have had experiences with women, and I'm probably equally split with who I'm attracted to.

KitKatChonky · 04/10/2024 16:58

Berocco43 · 04/10/2024 13:43

Just curious (as a gay woman myself and supporting a friend whose coming out later in life)

  1. what is your sexual orientation?
  2. regardless of your answer above- have you ever had a romantic or sexual interaction with the same sex?

I’d describe myself as straight, as anything else would feel fraudulent. I’m female and currently with a man but I’ve kissed women, definitely fancied women, and I think I could fall in love with a woman. Sexually though, the idea of someone else’s vagina does not interest me at all, so I think that would be a bit of a barrier 🤣

MsCactus · 04/10/2024 20:18

Heterosexual
Yes, I've kissed lots of women

In hindsight I might be bi, but I have a 'lower bar' for finding men attractive but women have to be quite attractive for me to like them, so I think I'm more straight...

PolaroidPrincess · 04/10/2024 20:20

Heterosexual

No. I like Dick too much.

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 04/10/2024 20:29

Heterosexual

Yes

BunnyLake · 04/10/2024 21:00

raydavis · 04/10/2024 13:55

Heterosexual

Can look at a woman and find her attractive but no desire to kiss or sleep with her.

It's strange, as if I see a particularly attractive woman I can find I can't take my eyes off her but more in admiration rather than romantic or sexual. Think the best word I could think of is that I'd be captivated by an attractive female but more in an "I wish I was her" type of way and imagine what her life could be like etc

That’s like me. I can be in awe of a woman’s beauty but my fantasy would be looking like them not having them.

I’m in my 60s and no longer have relationships but it’s always males that I’m sexually attracted to.

I would put myself as 100% straight.

Ivegotaboneinmyleg · 04/10/2024 21:08

SiobhanSharpe · 04/10/2024 13:44

Heterosexual.
No, zero interest from me.

I am also this.🌾

TinyRebel · 04/10/2024 21:10
  1. In a happy heterosexual marriage.
  2. Other than a brief snog with a friend ‘to try’ when I was a teenager, no.

A lot of my friends are older lesbian women (mix in feminist circles). Have had slight crushes on women - moreso as I age. Always joke that if anything happened to my lovely DH, I wouldn’t bother with another man.

So I might possibly be bisexual but have not really thought too much about it - is a moot point.

spottedinthewilds · 04/10/2024 21:11

raydavis · 04/10/2024 13:55

Heterosexual

Can look at a woman and find her attractive but no desire to kiss or sleep with her.

It's strange, as if I see a particularly attractive woman I can find I can't take my eyes off her but more in admiration rather than romantic or sexual. Think the best word I could think of is that I'd be captivated by an attractive female but more in an "I wish I was her" type of way and imagine what her life could be like etc

This person has worded it better than I could! But the same applies to me.

I have however had a couple of very drunken snogs with some lesbian friends when I was younger, but for a laugh. I have no desire to do anything sexual to a woman.

silverhamster · 04/10/2024 21:12

Lesbian

Until late 40's I had dated women but my main relationships were with men, something always felt wrong though. Mens bits repulse me but in the context of emotional connection I just looked away.

Came out and fell madly in love with a woman. Knowing now how it is meant to feel, I would never date men again.

Arlanymor · 04/10/2024 21:15

Straight as far as my tastes seem to extend, but there was one occasion where I met this great girl at a friend's party and couldn't stop thinking about her on the tube home. Still not sure if it was outright fancying her (she was incredibly pretty, but it was more that she drew me to her - don't know if that makes any sense?) but I thought about her for a while after. Two of my four best friends are gay men and it was at one of their birthdays that I met her - he offered to give me her number but I felt that wouldn't be quite right and also I wasn't quite sure about my feelings or her preferences either. So probably 95% straight but never say never and I think labels around attraction are increasing redundant in the 21st century. Anyway... Emily if you are reading this you are gorgeous, funny and smell like freshly-washed laundry, and I really liked you for a hot minute!

notacooldad · 04/10/2024 21:15

Heterosexual
Had a thing one night with best mate about 40 years ago and it didn't do anything for me.
And that was the end of my curiosity.

RachPelders · 04/10/2024 21:16
  1. Straight
  2. No, never. The thought of sex with a woman makes me feel a bit 🤢
Sleepeazie · 04/10/2024 21:20

Straight, was bi-curious (more in terms
of porn- never attracted to real people or tv stars etc)

made friends with a lesbian at uni (both mature students) and ended up in a cohabiting relationship for 2 years.

Missed penis so much, and whilst happy to receive, I felt more than a bit grossed giving. Also never found her naked body at all attractive, it was a meeting of minds really.

Made me very sure I’m not a lesbian or bi.. but also in prison or an end of the world type scenario I could get my kicks 😂 (as long as they’d swap for my allowance or something and not reciprocation).