Been with DH 10 years, married for 5 and we have a small DC under 1. DH has always been quirky and quite selfish but I think since DC it’s all become a lot more apparent and his lack of empathy, particularly towards me, is pushing me to think about ending the marriage. I am 100% sure DH has undiagnosed ASD (and I think ADHD too, I know they are often linked) and so I feel that this is just the way he is and he will never change.
I’d love to know if anyone else has had children with diagnosed or undiagnosed ASD DH/DP and how this was for you - did things get better as DC got older?
also any experiences of separating with a very small child - the idea of a shared custody arrangement kills me and I do 99% of DC care, I don’t think overnight stays etc without me at this point would be appropriate or kind to DC. What arrangements did you have?
I have tried to keep this brief but there are endless things DH does that are just getting me to the end of my tether e.g obsessions with hobbies, collecting and hoarding expensive items, lack of understanding of anyone else’s experiences or feelings, lack of friends, strange social behaviour etc.
At this point the only thing keeping me in the marriage is not wanting to rip up our ‘nice’ life, lose our home and enter into a difficult custody arrangement.